Tam

My brother called me when he was about 23 or so and told me bye, he was going to kill himself, I was 25... I couldn't help but think how utterly selfish that was that he'd want me to have to live with that so I told him to go right ahead but not to ask me to come and deal with it because I wasn't going to do it - that was so typical of the men in my family to pull stunts like that when they needed attention - I hung up the phone and called the cops and I remember them gasping and wondering why I wasn't jumping and freaking out - all I could think of was how very selfish that was because he knew I had young children that go everywhere I go - and I've barely spoken to him since then -

People who do that aren't your friends - if they need help, they should go and get it, leaving you to have to live each and every day with that vision or situation in your head are the furthest thing from a "friend" you can get!!

I am sorry for your loss - but they weren't your friends, don't lose sight of that - if it helps you get thru it.

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