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Originally Posted by Phoenix
Maybe it is for me. I do not see the harm in believing in a bit of magic at such a young age. I am rather shocked that at 5 years old you were able to have such serious conversations and have them mean anything to you in later life.
I guess you are quite smart, so even though English is your second language you use it quite well. I realize of course that Christmas is a commercialized holiday, I just do not care. I want to see the magic in my kids eyes, I want to hear the excitement. I want them to believe in something for awhile.
We get a bit cynical when we get older, I want to keep some sort of magic in their life while I can.
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English is my first language, I was born and raised in Canada. I just romp around in the Caribbean now because I can. I'm also old as fuck (adult industry-wise), so in terms of predisposition towards cynicism I can't feel you there. Idealism mends it's merry way...
In terms of my family we're all academics and nerds (an inherited trait) so we get along well, and my earliest convos with them on all topics pushed and prompted me but never beyond my limits. From my earliest memories of my family we have always talked politics, when we're not laughing that's what we do. Remembering those convos isn't an ordeal.
I get what you mean about wanting to see magic in your kids eyes, so squeeze your eyes tight yourself and see what you remember about your early xmas years...is it a fictitious elf or is it the moments you shared with your loved ones? I'm not a betting woman but I would guess it would be the latter?
For sure, my parents had a somewhat unorthodox technique in raising me, but I think some principles hold true regardless. 5, 10, 20 etc years from now all your kids will recall about the early years of your holidays shared together is your place in 'em. Not 'Santa', just your family coming together to create the the magic of the moment.
My point is, while I think trying to pretend that Santa exists is strange, your choice in disclosing (or withholding) the truth is blown. Due to an outsider that ship has sailed, cover blown. Completely unacceptable, I agree. You choose what's best for your children, not an outsider. That said, now that the proverbial ship has sailed maybe you can introduce them to a new version of Christmas that's rooted in the real world magic of having loving and caring people with whom to share the moment?
Your children can still have an xmas filled with magic, even without the elf. Sure you can lie to them, create cover stories for why your neighbor would speak such heresy but for real, why not take this as an opportunity to tell and show what the season should really be about?
Just my
as I stated above you have been the wronged party here so I wish you a wicked holiday however you proceed.
Kuwa na Krismasi njema
