Quote:
Originally Posted by Jel
Excuse != reason 
Some people are, I agree, but how do you know who is and who isn't, based on an internet video, and a bunch of other people saying who they are, and what they're about? L-Pink is dead on when he says it's become a sport - it's like a mass troll, and I thought the average biz owner wouldn't be led so easily 
fwiw, I've made a few lengthy tirades that weren't just one line, and 99% of the time the situation just being the straw that broke the camel's back with whatever other shit was going through my mind. Not everyone does that, but not everyone is everyone. To decide to join in 'ruining' someone because
a) I don't actually know the full story regarding why she had that outburst (everyone is dealing with shit mentally)
b) some clown on a messageboard, or facebook, or twitter gets a hardon from 'ruining' people
c) I think everyone should be just like me
is a bit, well... wanky. Like I said, she may well just be a cunt anyway, in which case she'll get hers eventually - just I fail to see the 'bloodlust' of the masses as being any less of a cunt move than what she did, except the bloodlust comes from fuck all except reading something on the internet. No wonder the media is so powerful |
In all honesty, you make a good argument for that side of the coin. Perhaps a lot has to do with one's perspective and experience over the years...dealing with the general public. I generally credit myself with having a good perception of people I deal with and many times I've just turned-a-cheek and chalked up someone's outburst to reasons other than the immediate situation. I've had people ream me a new one and then a short time later come up and offer a sincere apology...which never fails to restore at least a little faith in humankind.
But you raise a very good point - how to determine when a person is or isn't just being an intentional douche because that's who they are at the core. Especially based on an internet video. I usually judge by how out-of-control they seem to be at the time and how they phrase what they say. Typically, when the voice pitch goes up, they start stammering for words and you get the feeling they don't do this often...it all plays into the perception.
But when they talk the way she did in the video with smooth, in-control inflection...I take that as a sign they're generally intentional and vindictive. Not always - but as a rule of thumb most times. Not to say I'm always right, of course...at times I've been surprised as hell by an apology from someone I thought was a colossal asshole. But it comes down to years of experience at least for me.
Call it subjective.