SEO Spyglass and you have to buy the program and run it locally
SEO Spyglass: Website Back Link Checker Tool & Link Popularity Checker
Buy SEO spyglass: Best Backlink Analyzer, Link Popularity Check, Inbound Link Checker
I don't know what the free download version data limitations are;
Check your url/domain against your backlink list.
I have my own coded 'stealth' bot too;
use
HTML::SimpleLinkExtor;
my @links = HTML::SimpleLinkExtor->new->parse(get $page)->a;
then grep your domain with the referring name and see if the link is there. Oh, you can see all of the other links that target referring domain has and count them in your script.
Pay for the program, learn to code or use some free web tool ... Your bot's name can be User-Agent: Mozilla/5.0 (Windows [version]) Gecko/20100101 Firefox/38.0 -- fuck the rules!
Code:
use LWP::UserAgent;
$ua = LWP::UserAgent->new;
$ua->agent("$0/0.1 " . $ua->agent);
$ua->agent("Mozilla/5.0 (Windows [version]) Gecko/20100101 Firefox/38.0") # pretend we are very capable browser
Do you want to find the links or not?