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Originally Posted by SilentKnight
You can almost hear the sonic boom of several GFYers raising their hands in unison saying, "Naw, I'd tap that!"
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I am not a huge fan of mindless praise. In fact, it can devastate a child's growth and development. Telling a child all day long how intelligent they are will cause them to slow down, take less risks, stop trying as they try not to expose themselves for being human. It actually lowers child's IQs. Anyone that is a great coach knows you NEVER praise ability or outcomes. You praise hard work and effort. Athletes, musicians etc stop growing when they start getting told how talented they are, as their brain shifts gears and focuses more on protecting that image other have, they stop reaching, they stop pushing to the point of making mistakes (a biological necessity for motor learning and skill development) and stop taking risks out of fear of being exposed for not being a great talent. What life awaits a woman who is not beautiful by any normal standard when she's being told she's beautiful every day? I would argue that it will ultimately be filled with bitterness, distrust, stalled interpersonal skills development and hostility towards a world that will never see her as she sees herself. It's not helpful. We are what we are. We all have shortcomings. We should all accept who and what we are and make the most of it... not strap a carrot to our forehead and call ourselves unicorns. It's like American Idol when they tell the kid that he can't sing at all at the audition and he's come rely baffled and confused and then gets angry.