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Originally Posted by nico-t
i don't think he's a sociopath, i just think he is extremely stupid. He doesn't understand anything and keeps on yapping about little details. I have no idea why he posted about road conditions, it's like he's talking about a trip to the grocery store.
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Originally Posted by nico-t
i don't think he's a sociopath, i just think he is extremely stupid. He doesn't understand anything and keeps on yapping about little details. I have no idea why he posted about road conditions, it's like he's talking about a trip to the grocery store.
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I'll explain it to you.
Something is horribly wrong with his emotional processing and also with his ability to understand the emotions and emotional states of others. He has a grandiose sense of self, wants to be seen as a bad ass and tough guy and posts about it all the time.
His intent with this thread was manipulation. His intent was to get everyone to say "oh, poor Vendzilla".
He literally saw a funeral as opportunity. He then took steps at the funeral to maximize the potential rewards of that opportunity and then came here, to create a thread and to reap the rewards.
Think about this for a moment....
What better way to do that than to post about a funeral? Who is going to say anything or even challenge the behavior? You will get pity and sympathy and ANYONE who challenges that is instantly branded a cocksucker. It's a serial manipulators wet dream.
But in trying to capitalize on this event, his personality disorder also caused him to show himself standing at his "best friends" funeral, 50 yards off as the actual service is going on, taking pics of bikes and patched Hells Angels (i.e. hardcore criminals). Hardly the move of a grief stricken "best friend", not to mention incredibly inappropriate and inconsiderate to other family/friends to not be there as they are saying their final words, standing over the grave. He is acting like this because he likely has no sense of guilt, shame, remorse, regret and or is incredibly deficient in these conscience based emotions which guide most of the actions of you and i. If you had no sense of shame or guilt or remorse? What stops you from lying? From using others? From exploiting others? What stops you from saying anything at all? Nothing.
Why the details about the road conditions like he was driving to the grocery store?
Again, easy answer.
He is telling a story about
himself with pics and words.
He is not expressing genuine and authentic grief about the loss of another.
He is telling an "i'm cool and look at my bad ass friends - I got to ride with a bunch of fucking hardcore criminals and they even let me come back with them to their home base and hang out" story.
Because he is deficient in the processing of conscience based emotions and empathy, he has no way to really know where the boundaries are unless its from actual experience. He has no way to accurately understand how others perceive what he is saying and doing.
He clearly has issues with empathy as he clearly doesn't understand how any of this might be inappropriate or be interpreted as inappropriate. He thinks he's under constant attack... because think about it. If you have no way to understand why you are being attacked? How your actions and words affect others... How do you understand being attacked? All you can do is reason that people are mean to you for no reason at all because you have no way to connect your behaviors to the responses of others.
Do me one small favor
Imagine this for a moment.
Imagine someone you really love in life, someone close to you was just murdered.
Imagine all the emotions, the overwhelming grief, imagine being crushed emotionally and having your world shattered and trying to make sense of the loss and trying to deal with this at a funeral. Everyone around you is in tears and you can't hold it together either.
Now imagine you post your story online....
Someone says "you are 100% full of shit and using this event to manipulate others and you are a shameless piece of shit"
Think about this for a second.
What is your response?
What do you feel?
A normal person would feel anger and rage. They'd fucking lose it.
How does someone whose true intent is to exploit and manipulate others for pity, sympathy and to work on shaping others perception of him being a "bad ass"?
Well, look at the thread. You keep working on the story. You keep correcting the story. You keep tweaking the story. You keep adding details to the story. You keep working on other peoples understanding of the story. His only real thought and his only real source of frustration is in "why isn't this story working?"...
Would any normal person say anything beyond "i hope you burn to death motherfucker!"
Of course not.
Me? I would have instantly threw my computer through the wall and got in my car and started driving to California.
Him? Well,... something is clearly off in his behavior as he went to his "best friends" funeral and instinctively used it as a tool to manipulate others.
Innocent deny.
Liars explain.
If nothing I said was true, there'd be nothing to say in response.