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Originally Posted by RyuLion
I'm sorry for your loss man, why didn't you get life insurance for her? All my family has it because we never know, and none of us want it to be a burden..
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Thank you. She did put me in charge of life insurance, after her first bout with cancer and nobody wanted to insure her due to the cancer.
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Originally Posted by Relentless
4500 is an absurd price for cremation. Call other funeral parlors and you will find one does it for a lot less. I've had it done for around $1,200 in New York at a nice facility. If you lower your cost, you may already have enough.
My condolences on your loss...
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Thank you. I know this as well. And yes we would have the money already if it were this low. My mother put my brother in charge of all of this. We met with the funeral director the day before she passed, not even knowing it would be the last time we really heard her voice. At first before she was put into the nursing home we all spoke about cremation. I was and am fully prepared to cremate her, only for financial reason.
That day with the funeral director, she said she wanted to be laid to rest with her mother. Why $4500? I don't know, so many fees such as removal of the body, $80 in there just for the newspaper. I dont even know. We got quoted 3 options and just under $4500 was the lowest offer after all is said and done. The next offer was cremation with services at just under $5500, and finally just under $7500 for full burial and services. But it is out of my hands. I am simply trying to help my brother cause as I said above he is taking this harder than I and he wants to get enough to give her what she wanted. I am simply trying to help him reach his goal.
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Originally Posted by Harmon
No Obituary... therefore not searchable online.
Something stinks here, and although it could be my ass, I'm doubting it.
This reeks of SCAM.
You don't need a funeral home to write an obituary. At least do some research before you spit out bullshit.
GG OP. Nope, nope and nope.
https://www.funerals.org/frequently-...sked-questions
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Ok bro. We did call around but we hadn't much time. We got the "estimated" quotes on saturday, she died on sunday. The funeral director we spoke with had already removed the body. My brother chose him because that is who my mother wanted I guess I don't really know. It likely is a more expensive option, but then we are a small town and not a shit ton of funeral homes to chose from.
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Originally Posted by AdultKing
He doesn't want the money for a cremation, he wants it for a burial.
Even so, where does the concept of personal responsibility come into this ? If his mother accrued no savings or assets and his family is broke then quite literally beggars can't be choosers.
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As I said, I could be ok with cremation as I just don't want any of us in debt over this as we all are already. We gathered our weekly incomes to get started, then we were reaching out to family and friends. Not much happening there. I could go into details of family judgment and feuding and whatnot... which is always fun to deal with when you are grieving. But really none of that is important. After seeing how this all unfolded. I decided to reach out to my community, my online community where I spend my days while I am not at the local park or tavern... see.. this is where I live. Online.
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Originally Posted by MrBottomTooth
Please, not another donation scam? Hopefully he hasn't bailed on the thread already.
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Still here, but despite what many of you think, this is real. I have feelings and while I knew that a few would set my ass on fire I also had hoped that would come with a few donations as well. Nope, mostly fire, so I backed off a bit. I am having a rough time still and some comments can be hard to swallow. I pointed it out in the beginning that I was unsure of posting. I know people see this as just another burial, but many have lost loved ones to cancer, and they tend to help one another out.
