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Well, guess who has access to the Internet again..... And this story just gets stranger and stranger. Now Donny wants to tell the world his story.
Holy shit:
On December 1st, 2014, I was accused of illegal activity by Bethany, a 16 year old girl who I love very much. In fact, I might as well get something out there right now, something that will make most of you scratch your heads or decide I must be mentally unstable or the world?s biggest scumbag: I fell in love with Bethany. I was 40 years old, and she was only 16. She?d lived with me for four years and I was entrusted to care for her and to ensure she received the best High School education possible. I should never have allowed myself to get as close to her as I did, and should have instead kept a healthy father/daughter type of relationship with her. I know all of these things, and I intend to get counseling to figure out what?s wrong with me. I?m not going to make excuses for myself in any way; I?m just going to tell you how things were and I?ll share with you how it came to be that I fell head over heels for a teenager, and how that same teenager eventually went to her mother with accusations that ended up landing me in jail.
And then....
Around age 13, Bethany began telling me that she was going to marry me one day. Knowing this is something that is quite normal for girls her age (to think such thoughts about a father figure or strong adult male in their life), I didn?t pay it much attention, other than to think it was very cute. When she?d claim that I was her boyfriend, I?d chuckle while saying something like, ?Well, if that keeps you away from the boys, feel free to think of me as your boyfriend.? By the time she was 16, yet still insisted she was going to marry me someday, I talked to her dad about it. His response wasn?t what I expected: ?Well, if the priest thing doesn?t work out for you, I?d be happy to call you my son-in-law. Lots of people would give you shit for it, but I wouldn?t be one of them.? I shared this conversation with both Catie and Bethany. We?d joke about it, but Bethany would tell me in private that she wasn?t joking. I told her that she?d outgrow it one day, especially during her college years, and that some boy would come along who would make those feelings disappear. She insisted that wasn?t going to be the case. Her feelings were often hurt when I?d speak of becoming a priest, because she knew priests couldn?t get married. We had conversations about this. I asked her how old she thought she?d be when she married me. She said she thought she?d be in her early to mid-20s. I told her that I?d make a deal with her: if she didn?t find someone to take her mind off of such thoughts once she was in college, and she still felt like she still wanted to marry me, we could talk about it when she was in her mid-20s. But for now, it might be time for her to date boys her own age. Secretly, however, I hoped she was right and that her feelings wouldn?t change. I believed that by her mid-20s, when she was old enough to marry, I could think of nobody I?d rather spend my life with than her. And I started looking around online for examples of couples such as Celine Dion and her husband Rene, who had a bigger difference in their age than Bethany and I. There were many of them. That, along with what Bethany?s father, Ron, had said to me, made me think it wasn?t so crazy to ponder marrying Beth. Now, sometimes, I wonder if there?s something wrong with me, and I intend to go to counseling to find out. To be honest with you, I?d fallen head-over-heels in love with Bethany.
And it seems he is still in love with her...
What I also want everyone to know is that Bethany is very important to me, and I miss her and love her very much. Tears come to my eyes every single day because of this situation, and none of them are due to my imprisonment. My weeping comes as a result of worry over being away from my son, over Bethany, over feelings of betrayal, and over feelings that I?ve failed her and can do absolutely nothing about it. I wanted to show her the world, and that?s exactly what I intended to do once she?d graduated High School (take her to several countries and on as many of my speaking engagements as possible). I was arrested on December 1st: my plans before that, for Christmas, were to give her driving lessons, followed by a Subaru Tribeca as her first car. I spoiled her as much as I was capable of spoiling her. I loved her, knew it was unhealthy to feel as I felt about her, but couldn?t seem to stop myself. So it is possible that she did me and herself a very huge favor when she went with her mother to speak with police. I?ll now get help that I wouldn?t have sought out prior to this.
For some reason I cannot post a link to his blog from here, but it's on the top of his Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/donnypauling |