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Originally Posted by clickity click
Who taught you to preach?
Love my wife? 10 years in and am looking for ways out.she is the reason I drink I guess she says the same about me.
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Good. You are in tune with the truth. The answer is not drinking, the answer is, it's time for both of you to be honest with each other and stop punishing yourself with alcohol.
It might be as you say, both of you are using alcohol to buffer a sinking relationship. Both of you may be afraid to be alone or don't have the strength to be honest with each other. Usually when couples stop talking the problems begin. I think you should open up a dialogue with your wife and talk to her about the underlying problems which are bringing about the drinking.
Right now, the alcohol is having a negative influence on your behavior and ability to reason, so it's important to clean up and get off the booze before you both really start talking. With the volume of wine you are drinking, it will only take about 3 or 4 weeks to get clean and feel great again. Then you both can really start talking.
You will go thru major low blood sugar episodes by stopping drinking. It's not the alcohol you are missing, it's the sugar. You will have to eat better and take walks to fight it. I suggest a slow tapering of the booze, and not going cold turkey. Cold turkey is a shock to your system and is not a good way to quit. A slow downsizing before stopping will work.
If you drink a bottle a day, cut that in half for 10 days. Then reduce to a glass a day... bring your body down slowly off the sugar addiction and supplement with food and walking. Also Vitamin B100 helps. When you are down to a glass a day, stay there for about 5 days. Then stop. Remember, it's the sugar your body is craving and the calories. When you stop drinking, you will feel it. Your body will scream for sugar and it will hurt. But it can be beat. Lots of food, carbs, walking, b100, while tapering off. Get your body off the sugar and onto food.
Take about a month, then you will notice a huge change. A huge rush of energy. Your mind will be clear like it was when you were a kid. You have no idea how easy the human body and mind can repair itself when you feed it right. Then you both can really start talking things out. You may find there really was no problem at all between you both, other than the alcohol that has been slowly depriving you both of life.