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Originally Posted by Bladewire
I'm sorry you're going through this process man it can be a tough long road full of possitive suprises and upticks. Just ignore the crap below just random thoughts with good intentions.
No father wants his golden years to be a drunk that can't take care of his wife, and no Mom wants to be a burden on anyone.
At least you have family that you can bring together and pool resources for this emergency. This kind of scenario with elderly couples can be a powder keg leading to abuse, murder suicide, etc.
Your Dad needs to get away and decompress, he's sending you all the signals and someone needs to act before it's too late.
Imagine being your Dad watching your life/wife whither away before you every single day feeling helpless, every day, and sleeping with someone who's fading away, and drinking to escape without escaping.
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All makese sense.
Both my brother and I have said he'll have a heart attack and go before she goes.
Yes it must be hard for him to watch. I couldn't imagine living with someone who isn'the quite the person you just spent 40 odd years with. But at the same time it'seems my mum aswell so i'm watching it aswell.
All i try and point out to him is this time next year it could be 5x worse again and he will be thinking
"God 12 months ago wasn't so bad".
For all we know this could be her last Christmas. I'm trying to make sure it's as good as it can be. Even if i'my not looking forward to it...