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Originally Posted by Scott McD
All makese sense.
Both my brother and I have said he'll have a heart attack and go before she goes.
Yes it must be hard for him to watch. I couldn't imagine living with someone who isn'the quite the person you just spent 40 odd years with. But at the same time it'seems my mum aswell so i'm watching it aswell.
All i try and point out to him is this time next year it could be 5x worse again and he will be thinking
"God 12 months ago wasn't so bad".
For all we know this could be her last Christmas. I'm trying to make sure it's as good as it can be. Even if i'my not looking forward to it...
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"Watching my dad not cope"
"..now speaking about having to put her in a home"
"My dad has turned to drink big time which obviously isn't helping."
"We know there is help out there"
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He's gotta be feeling like shit, not able to take care of her, watching her fade every single day right in front of him, having to ask for help, looking like the bad guy with his sons.
If I was her I wouldn't want to be a burden or cause of conflict but probably wouldn't want to leave my home. Man so tough!
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