If ICQ does not work try Trillian (
http://www.trillian.cc ) there is a free version,that does work pretty good for me.
Good luck for you and your brother!
It seems that you are a strong character.
Set yourself some goals and work hard to
reach them and you will.
Not today and not tomorrow,but you will reach
your goals if you really want it.
All the best for you.
Cheers,
JOKER