Originally Posted by RedFred

Ask a counsellor: Why can't I stop myself telling lies to impress people?


“I’ve been lying to my friends about my life and I don’t know how to stop. I know it’s childish and stupid and, at 24, it’s time I grew up and told the truth, but I just don’t know how to get myself out of this mess.

“They think I have a steady boyfriend, have great holidays abroad and that I have another circle of interesting friends. None of that’s true and I know that, sooner or later, I’m going to be found out. What do I do?”

Fiona says…

People who lie like this tend to do so because they think their life is too dull to be interesting to other people. Generally, they’re not serious lies and they’re rarely intended to hurt others, but they start from insecurity and lack of confidence. Instead of making you feel more secure, they erode what little confidence you have and they make you feel scared and vulnerable in case you’re found out. In your case, fortunately, you’ve recognised you have a problem and need help. That’s a big step forward in itself.