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Originally Posted by Mr Pheer
Be truthful. He'll respect you for that and you'll respect yourself.
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thank you and I agree completely. my issue is how the fuck do I tell that truth in a manner that minimizes harm
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Originally Posted by crucifissio
tell him you have turned faggot...
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that ship sailed long ago, I refuse to choose
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Originally Posted by MFCT
"I love you." A guy will tell you whatever it takes. And people are most often a sucker for that one.
"I don't feel that way about him." That alone should answer any question you have about this situation better than anyone else could. You can stop reading now.
He's wicked and overall quite the charmer. But aren't they always? Even a swindler had better damn-well know how to lay the charm on thick.
He's a source of joy in your life. He's a good friend. That's great. Add to that, he's currently doing a bang-up job at fucking that up for you. Which begs the question, what else will he manage to fuck up in your life on down the road, if you allow it?
If you lose that friendship, he can thank no one but himself for that. You should have a clear consciousness. You weren't the one who decided to become pushy.
"I REALLY do not want to hurt him as he's been through enough already." Ok, so here he has you feeling it would be your fault if things don't work out the way he wants. In fact, he's got you feeling that you somehow you owe it to him to not hurt him. Exactly what kind of debt are you in with this guy? None at all, I would hope.
"He's been through enough already." Sweet, sweet sympathy, be still my beating heart. If you think about it, who hasn't been through enough already? Haven't you been through enough already? Losing a much-needed friendship would be painful to you. But how much of a fuck is he giving about that?
Don't be played. You're in a vulnerable state in your life. You're not ready for this yet, with him or anyone. And what's more, you don't need more drama and BS in your life at this point. There will be other friends who will actually be good for you, and won't become toxic.
Ghost this MFer and forget about him. I'm sorry for the loss of a meaningful friendship to you. But someone trying to take advantage is the absolute last thing you need in your life, with all that's been going on.
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I disagree with a lot of what you wrote but you said some stuff I needed to hear. thank you. a good friend would not push me, esp when he knows I'm not a 'fall in love' person and am trying to fix something that matters so much to me
thank you
to be clear, for the record, he's not a manipulative charmer. he's real, the kind of person where no matter what they say you can trust that is their truth. I really do love him, but not in that way. and I don't think he meant anything other than telling me that he loved me in
that way when he did it. we already fuck, talk, have so much fun. it's not like he'd get anything extra from me for saying those words.
I don't love him in that way. that I needed no help deciding.
props for everything you wrote though, there are absolute predators out there and you not knowing where my head is at, you're following the girl code (looking out for each other). respect
what I'm asking for some help on is
how to phrase my reply. To not cause any more harm than the reply itself will, esp when he is dealing with some shit that is absolutely real.
thank you all for your replies