Originally Posted by JesseQuinn

for real, I don't know how to handle this

I have been single in JA for months and have been having a lot of fun. good times, no strings attached

one dude I've been seeing told me he loved me today. I kinda already knew, was just hoping it would pass

even if I was not reconciling with my husband (the only person I have ever loved in that way), I don't feel that way about him

He's such a wicked person. we dance, speak in rhymes, talk real shit, just effortless awesomeness. He is a source of joy in my life.

He has been through some really tough stuff and I know the friendship we share is good for both of us. I don't want to lose the latter and I REALLY do not want to hurt him as he's been through enough already.

I told him I needed some time before I respond (and cuz he gets me he understood that)

so how do I handle this? is there a way to respond that would not hurt him or ruin our friendship?

I'm guessing no but any real advice to minimize harm to him would be so appreciated