JesseQuinn

please tell me you are trolling and don't actually think this way. if not trolling you're trying to place an entire gender into some monolithic category. like males want this to fulfill their lives. wtf?

I have never, ever wanted kids. I love kids, just have never once felt the bio urge to procreate. ever

some women (AND men) do, props to 'em all for continuing the species

I cannot understand babies and they aren't fun to me and I don't want to place myself second for the rest of my life to be the good mom a kid I made would deserve. I have an amazing mom (I like her as a person as much as I love her as my mom) and I know how hard she had to work and what she gave up to be that for me

she did it because she wanted to though, never once has she ever made me feel like an encumbrance on her goals or her life

it's just not in me. I'm Auntie Jess for life

I know your diaper is dirty but mommy is reading a wicked book so stop crying and let me finish my chapter first por favor

that would be me. at least a cat needing attention can just jump into your lap or spoon cuddle to get what they need. you just switch petting hand when you need to turn a page

seriously though, yeah my work is important to me but it's more than that

I can go dancing, take off to the beach, read, fly out of country for something important (happened twice this year for really not so great reasons; no more, universe- please) and not need to worry about anything but cat care. which is REALLY easy as all my friends and my husband love my cats. feed them, water them, play with them, give them treats and they entertain themselves until the humans return

kid care is a bit more complicated and they do (for all the joy they bring) stifle some options and opportunities. no way could I have done most of the things I've done in the past 10 years alone if I had a child

kidless I can do what I want, when I want. I may be fucked up in some other ways (i.e. needing people to remind/harass me to eat as I often honestly forget when I'm busy) but knowing what I'm good at and what I want is a strength. I made a good decision that I can't go back on and have never for a moment regretted making


when I got my tubes tied in my 20's my doc (a racialized woman) who gave me the referral to a doc to perform the surgery warned me that due to being a paleface with blue eyes at my age at the time he might not do it

so I brought my Indigenous mom and (at the time, now husband) Jamaican boyfriend to my consultation

only thing I was worried about was that the lapro surgery would go wrong and I'd end up with zipper stitches. thankfully it went well and I ended up with 2 half an inch each scars that disappeared in two years

when I get together with friends who have kids at gatherings if they are at least 8 (8-10 is my inner maturity level) I have a fucking ball. we tear shit up and then I give them back to their parents to go home and do my own stuff

I babysit a bunch of kids informally now that the building I live in is finished and full. my patio looks out onto the pool in our complex so I can work, read and supervise from 10 feet away

sometimes kids in the neighbourhood come over too. love love love the sound of children laughing and playing. most of the time they end up begging me to jump in with them

if it's not a super-crazy work day I always do =)

I lived with a kid (9) a few years back in TCI and his mom actually ended up letting go of his after school babysitter as I have always worked from home and we spent so much time together she wasn't really needed except for nights when we all went out for adult time at the clubs

kenpo wars to the death to get a snack after school, bashing each other with those spongy floaty tubes in the pool, 'tickle and dunk' when I took him to the beach almost every weekend I went, skipping in the rain belting lyrics at the top of our lungs. so much fun

kids are awesome, they just want to be and don't give a fuck

again I hope you're trolling but rich and mean men are not a prize, at least not to someone who wants a real partner and not just a good prenup that will pay them off

as to Thatcher (shudder for multiple reasons), I'm a feminist and my feminism includes men. women have partners who are males, fathers, sons, brothers, friends. what happens to them affects us. for real get out of the second wave, that ish is prehistoric

to fuck a dude he needs to be kind, hot and fun and smart. and know how to dance

that's my monolithic statement speaking for all women about all men

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