Originally Posted by JesseQuinn

just logged in to post a song and saw this

how exactly did I screw up? I'm happy despite my flaws and faults, with a life filled with people and kittens and work (that supports the lifestyle and goals I have set) that all actually mean something to me. my life feels like a gift to me

with issues for sure like all people but have never regretted anything. for real you're perfect? with no issues whatsoever? if so high five but...no one is perfect

I'd struggle with food whether I had kids or not. at least no child of mine would ever have to see that, to download my personal database of crap into their lives.

I actually give really good advice to young girls I know who struggle with body image as I've been there so deep and know what they need to hear. and make a deliberate effort to eat around them (since they sometimes comment that I'm pretty and thin as if the two co-relate). I don't pretend to enjoy it (kids are smart so I don't even try to lie) but as a "this is a part of life" thing that is necessary and you are not defined by your shape as you see it in your head. now let's chill and digest and then go actively play

even if it doesn't resonate immediately I plant a seed, you know?

I used to babysit a very beautiful energetic young child when I was in my teens when her parents had nights out, and her mom had an eating disorder. her name began with an H so let's call her 'Helen'.

Helen was given a dinner menu for me to prepare that was less calories than what I fed my at the time very young iguana. so I'd order pizza and carry a stash of chocolate for dessert for her, every time. H was terrified her mom would find out but I always stashed the evidence next door to bring home after I left. I moved out of the neighbourhood by the time she was six but what do you think her future was when it came to food? or her sense of self outside of how she perceived her body?

'Helen' died of anorexia before she saw 30

do you think that wealthy stay at home mom doing everything you think is best was equipped to raise that child?

and what doctoral thesis? I was just writing what was in my head

stay in your lane of comfort if it's safe for you, just saying there's a lot more out there