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Originally Posted by CurrentlySober
I genuinely cant imagine any situation, where Id be talking to anyone, and feel the need to use the word 'Queer'. Let alone be so keen to use it myself, I'd be waiting patiently for them to use it first... Just because someone has a different sexuality and/or preferences to myself, I can't see why on earth it should be the first thing that we are talking about? 
But that's just me I suppose... |
yeah, me neither
I look at it like one of those things where if you're getting to know someone over time and they say I identify as such and such it's helpful to know what they mean
these descriptors also pop up a lot online, probably far more often than in real life scenarios where if someone is a friend or strong acquaintance they'll tell you and describe what it means if you're unsure
the first time I met a hermaphrodite (it was an after hours club with a sauna and everyone was getting naked so I saw the goods, basically a vagina with a penis where the clit would be, with balls as well) and we were talking. I wasn't sure whether to call the person him or her. so I asked. and he let me know. boom, done. not a big deal. I didn't ask his gender(s) preference in who he preferred to fuck as it wasn't relevant. I only wanted to know what pronoun to use to show respect
language can be a powerful tool in understanding each other and knowing the terminology can be helpful when it is needed. anyone who reads any more into it than that probably just likes their tempest tea