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Originally Posted by AmeliaG
I'm old-fashioned and think you should not offer either of those on the first date, unless you plan on only having one date.
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Finally, some words of sensibility in this thread! Thanks Amelia.
I prefer the term 'old-school' instead of 'old-fashioned' ('cause it's way more nifty), but in that vein of thinking, it would be accurate to observe that one of the casualties of prolific, easily accessible porn, especially gonzo, has affected a whole new generation of people who place little, if any, value in the notion of physical intimacy.
On the other hand, people who do gradually work their way to a worthwhile level of intimacy in a personal relationship, do all the wild and crazy stuff too if they like, but, without that wild and crazy stuff, this still have something.
But hey, I came of age when there were "taboos" that felt like scoring the "holy grail" when they were finally realized. Foreplay was several years long fantasizing and waiting to come across (yes, pun intended) someone that shared your interest. People used to harbour "dirty secrets" - now they're just check boxes on a dating application form.
Being sexual with someone used to mean something and have lasting value. From the tone of this thread and the ever-escalating level of humiliation/abuse and sadism in porn generally. we seem to be living in the "cheap sex" age.
The problem with cheap thrills is that the dopamine rush that accompanies them fades quicker each time, and then what's next?