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Originally Posted by Tube Ace
I didn't realize you were 61, you look great. I've only felt the desire to become a father in the last 3 years. It took me quite a long time to "fix myself" after being raised by a single mother and having a deadbeat dad who gave neither his time nor financial help since I was 4 years old. Because of this, my biggest fear was being a bad father myself. You're one of the very few who mentions their children here. You always seemed like a thoughtful, kind, good man. I always enjoy your well thought out and articulated posts. You're one of the few last remaining saving graces here.
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The feeling is definitely mutual.
As a dad there is only a small piece of advice - I tell my kids every day no matter what, "there is nothing you can do or say that will make me stop loving you". and each night - I sit - read or listen to them and always hug and say I love you. Never do they walk out the door or close their eyes without knowing I love them. We've all had tough upbringings and regrets - but I know that you (as I do) will take it seriously. Hopefully the child will grow up much smarter - wiser and capable than us so that we leave better people in the world than our parents did. When I'm gone - at least I believe all my kids will say - he made us laugh every day - we were loved everyday. For you and me - there is barely any reward more important than knowing that your kids know that. We screw up - for sure. Yet teaching the value of family and relationships - training them not as a friend but as a parent is so important. You want your daughter to marry a man that will continue that on - and your son's to have a wife as honorable and as much as a partner to you as your wife.