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Originally Posted by AmeliaG
I get what you are saying about how it could be fun sharing the *idea* of a hall pass as a fantasy. I mean, I understand how various forms of open relationship can be fun as well.
The thing about a hall pass is both parties kinda have to believe they'd never meet their hall pass and their hall pass wouldn't sleep with them anyway, if the opportunity arose.
Or at least both partners have to be on the same page that they are both just fantasizing and would not act on it.
Living in Los Angeles for twenty years, I just knew or met a lot of people who demolished their relationship with a hall pass that maybe one of them thought was just sharing fantasies, while the other was making a plan that was absolutely going to be successful.
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Alright well now I can understand where you're coming from - the majority (not a slam against you) do not have access nor rub shoulders with celebs regularly. In fact - Canadians' are known for simply leaving them alone to their business and being friendly.
The Hall Pass gives insights into fantasies which are healthy in most relationships that are secure - when answering "what is it about that celebrity that turns you on". We also admit to ourselves that of course there are going to be people more attractive than your partner in life - but knowing that beauty is not the deciding factor is comforting. Both partners know we'll never cheat - we love each other - our lives and kids to ever screw that up. It doesn't dominate our conversations - in fact we only talked about it once for fun after watching a TV show. Because that's what we do - communicate the good - the bad and the ugly.