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Originally Posted by Farang
in order to speak to a girl, I need to get drunk.
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This is why you need to socialize.
You need to learn how to talk to everyone from 5 year olds to 85 year olds.
Once you learn how to talk to anyone, women will flow into your life as naturally as the sun rises in the morning. You will find women and make connections everywhere you go.
Because I can talk to anyone, I was able to work with disabled seniors and get praised for how much they enjoyed my company, to the point where I could've got a bus and made 1000's every weekend because there were lots of seniors on Vancouver Island who needed respite work paid for by their families. Most people who work with disabled seniors are basically anti-social babysitters who don't know and don't care to listen to what seniors have to say. Alas, then I refused the "vaccine", but that's a whole other tale.
Having had a kid myself, I learned how to deal with infants and toddlers, and now kids, I totally get kids and it is easy to figure out why they are having a tantrum or whatever issues. It is a very real skill to be able to deal with human beings of every age and persuasion. I can fit in at freakshows, in cracktown, with your grandma for tea, and with soulless ballers. Just not in a 9-5 job, haha.
Learning how to talk to everyone, from the dirt poor crackheads, to wealthy and snobby people, is an invaluable gift. I can buy coke easy from a street dealer in a 3rd world country or Canada, as street sense is something I've learned from my time in the gutter, and talking to the rich, multi-millionaires is something I learned while being a bohemian hipster socializing with people much richer than myself, but because I was making 10k USD a month and could throw great parties and knew how to act, they accepted me as well.
What you need to do is broaden your social horizons, learn about people, take a job you normally wouldn't take, get out of your comfort zone. Travel. Interact with people. Hang out places that are strange or foreign to you. I did photography and videography for a bunch of theatre lesbians for like an entire fall season at one point, went on like 40 ghost hunts with a bunch of nerds, and was an extra and production assistant on numerous music videos. I did so much random shit with random people, and that's how you learn to be a social butterfly.
I might be dirt poor living in a shack at the side of a highway, but put me in nearly any social situation and I'll be one of the most socially fluid people in the room, because I know what to talk about and what not to talk about, how to approach people and how to make friends! My current predicament is mostly because when it comes to COVID and the "vaccine", I can't keep my mouth fucking shut. Canada is an extremely conformist place, and for someone like me who is gregarious and chatty, it is very hard to fit into a corporate workplace environment where everyone is expected to be a professional little cog.
If you and I lived near each other, I would go hang out with you in your local pub / bar, and you could watch me interact with people while sitting at the bar. Prefer a box or rectangle-shaped bar, so you can sit across from people with the bartender as the buffer. A few weeks of going to the same bar every day or every other day for 2-3 drinks and a happy hour appetizer and you'll have made friends, guaranteed, and once you've made a couple friends, it just snowballs from there. The bar staff themselves can become your friends if you're okay with being friends with poor people. (many people see that as below them.) The bar staff themselves are socially fluid and they know their customers, they frequently hook people up with dates and friendship. The mother of my kid, who is a stunningly beautiful woman from a pretty amazing family, I met her through her brother who was a regular at The Blarneystone in the Gastown neighbourhood of Vancouver.
Funny how the Blarneystone is associated with the gift of gab and that's the name of the pub I used to attend, but the truth is, you need to level up your charisma with everyone to become truly socially fluid and attractive. There are so many more tips and tricks I have to make people like you in-person, and repetition creates trust and affinity.
Once you have some decent clothes, the confidence to have the gift of gab, and you have a few friends at a pub (or a few pubs or other locations like gyms or whatever) you build trust in a community. When the bartender treats you like a pal and other customers smile when you walk in, the strangers at the bar are immediately hit on the lizard brain level that people like you, and it makes them instantly curious as to who this person is that just walked in.
Even though I have basically $0 to my name and I'm nearly out of food until my next affiliate payment on the 8th-9th, my physical-world social skills are impeccable and I can teach you to become a pussy magnet, even if you're ugly as sin and smell like fish farts.