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Having a few drinks to relax and take the edge off when cold approaching or on a date is a pretty normal thing. Alcohol only distorts your reality to any lasting effect if you overdo it (and perhaps not even then). Not to mention partying with a girl can be a good time (are you getting wasted every night? Then that's a DIFFERENT issue)
The level of extremes in this thread is wild.
Alcohol is only bad
All vaccines are perfect
Smoking weed will send you to an early grave.
I mean Huggles makes some good points about going out and socializing, it's really not a terrible thing, as long as you don't go full blown alcoholic (you can socialize in other arenas, yoga classes, coffee houses, join a class), but I don't agree at all on thinking vaccines are poison. I do agree it's your choice to take em or not, but it's possible one who doesn't could spread a virus more easily.
Having said that, Tinder hasn't been successful much for me. I had a great date/match/sex during Covid, she was 36, no kids, hot as hell. But that was it. Not all dating apps rely on swipe mechanics BTW if the superficial looks issue gets in the way for you. I'm good looking enough and my pics are diverse but it's not good enough for Tinder.
In person I get better initial reactions. Every guy has their method, for better or for worse. I perform in bands, I'm good at my instrument, and before Me-Too I regularly had girls approach me after a set. Socialized just fine, got results (and often lots of drama). However in the last few years, perhaps blame the pandemic for social dynamics changing, not so much. I do best when I look best - in shape, you can see it in my face. I feel more confident as a result.
Confidence without being a dick is most of the battle when it comes to attracting women. Then look the best you can.
My best results were from Craigslist. Really. Some very attractive girls coming over my house, immediate action. I won't say what I posted to lead to those results, but many were ONS, and some lasted a few months. They were the most chill girls I met.
After CL personals went away because of a retarded US law, I moved onto a sugar dating site, and I was able to find the girls who weren't seeking a handout. Many would ask for money or complain but the ones I ended up dating did not. I don't think most men have that experience on sites like that, but I did.
For now I've rekindled things with an ex gf from way back.
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