10-04-2003, 11:55 AM
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March 1st, 2003
Join Date: Jul 2001
Location: Seat 4 @ Venetian Poker Room
Posts: 20,295
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Originally posted by Furious_Female
Not to sound like a bitch, but I think that's the problem with a lot of new marriages today. People still want to do things that single people do. If I had a husband, I'd never put up with him going to bars/clubs. It's just wrong... regardless of whose birthday it is... that's putting yourself in temptation's path. No matter how innocent or harmless it might be... it's just not healthy for a marriage.
It's great to work and provide for your family, but being responsible and attentive goes a lot further than just how hard you bust your ass or how many things you can buy. Just because you set aside some free time just for family, doesn't mean it makes up for the lost time working or doing other things.
My parents didn't have a great marriage but I can only imagine how much worse it would have been if one of them were still going to bars/clubs. I know I wouldn't have liked to see mommy or daddy hanging out in a bar a few nights a week, it's traumatizing and creates insecurities. That's something you have to give up all together if you are ready for marriage. Unless of course, you do it together and that's what you are both happy with. But if one of the people in the marriage, doesn't like it... it's always going to be a problem.
I just don't think partying, without your spouse is good at any time. Having time away from each other is healthy, doing your own hobbies etc... but bars, clubs, parties etc.. That's for single people. People might disagree and that's fine... what works for one person/couple, doesn't always work for the next and if one person in a relationship doesn't like it, it will never work.
Flame away... that's just my opinion.
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I see alot of divorces and restraining orders in your future...and all against you ;) |
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