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Originally posted by Amputate Your Head
not necessarily.
sometimes it's better to let sleeping dogs lie for a while.... if someone gets to know you for YOU first, versus knowing you for what you DO, it often is much less of a shock.
The only people outside of the industry I tell straight up front that I'm a pornographer are people I could care less if I ever see them again or people I know without a doubt will have no problems with it whatsoever.
I'm not saying anyone should try to pull off some fluff story, but there's ways to explain what you do without actually saying it.
Sometimes tact is still required. This goes for prospective relationships both romantic and casual. If I'm meeting some friends of some friends, I am not going to blurt out "Hey, I'm in porn!"..... it turns people off, and puts your friends in an uncomfortable position whether they know about it beforehand or not.
100% honesty up front is not always the best policy. Situations and people vary.
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I think if it was someone I wanted to have a relationship with, I'd want to know how they felt right away. What if I fall in love with them and we start a relationship and I find out later they are VIOLENTLY adverse to what I do, and can't possibly reconcile themselves with the idea? I am one of those firm believers in having accept me for me. I would be devistated if my job (which is part of my life) ended my hopes as far as that's concerned.
For some people though, it might work.