Two words... Rabbit Pearl!
Seriously, try the toys. I had a friend who confessed to me on her 30th birthday that she'd never had an orgasm. I bought the girl a vibrator the next day and she hasn't been the same since.
A lot of times women feel that "good girls don't" so they have a mental block against the orgasm. IMO, those barriers can be broken with a good vibrator.
If you're going to go the dildo type vibrator route, get a good one with clitoral stimulation too like the rabbit pearl. If you just want one for the clit, get an electric/plug in model over one of those other ones. They're way better and not as noisy. It's easy to get distracted when your toys are as loud as a leaf blower.
