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Originally posted by phogirl69
All the guys that say they want or love their kids, are you willing to take EXACTLY 50% responsibility for child rearing and taking care of the kids? If you had to quit down on some hours (if you had a regular job) to help raise your kids would you do it? Or don't tell me you would expect your wife/girlfriend to quit her job to devote her life to raising the kids because you think your job is so much important ?
I think it's unfair how husbands expect their wives to quit their job and do 99% of the child rearing duties while the men most of the time just play with their kid for a while and think that's enough. I wonder how many guys actually change diapers and help feed their babies?
That's another reason why I would never have kids. I don't want to devote my life to someone else, I want to live my life for myself.
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My partner quit work around 7 weeks into her pregnancy, this was her choice.
After the birth, i worked 3 days / week and spent the other 2 at home helping with all the chores, washing/cleaning etc , nappy changing feeding, preparing food ( cutting up a small forest of vegetables and boiling them, then freezing them into ice cubes,s ame with fruit, meat etc etc..
9 months later, i've started full-time ( I'd much rather stay at home with our child - but 1) we need the money my job provides and 2) i can't breast feed and 3) my partner wants to stay at home with our child.
She's looking at going into teaching over hte next 2-3 years and i'm supporting her in that. It's a game of balance and compromise. I'd like more time with my child and if she goes back to work i'll be only too happy to give up my day job.
I've devoted my life to my family.