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Originally posted by baddog
*note to self: do not eat while reading GFY
Look, like I said before, it is up to the woman if there will be any kids or not. If she has a career and a man that is willing to take care of the child rearing, then more power to the two of them.
I am just saying don't get knocked up, and then decide that you are going to try and force the father to take on the rearing responsibilities. This should be decided before pregnancy.
From reading your comments I think it is a great idea if you never have children, however, I will not be the least bit surprised that if in 10 years your biological clock starts ticking loud enough to keep some guy awake at night
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I think some people are more "motherly" and nurturing than others. I have never liked kids a lot, and to be honest I prefer not to be around them, so I don't think my biological clock will start ticking. To be honest, I don't even really like to play with kids at all. I think I'm more an agressive and ambitious person that "nurturing" or a "caretaker".
And I would never just decide to get pregnant and make the father raise the kids on his own, I'm one of those people who overanalyze and overplan everything, I would know how he felt about it beforehand. But it would have to be exactly 50/50. Although there are men who take great care of their kids, sometimes its 60/40 or 55/45 with the mother taking just a " tiny bit" more care of the kids than the guy is.
Also, with the salary thing, women are catching up and some are making more than men.... in a hundred years or so it might get close to equal.
Also, I'm 25 (in 2 monthhs) , so in 10 yrs that's 35, that's a bit risky for having kids edging towards 40 (more complications the older you get), I thought most women's clocks start ticking at 30.
I also know some women consciously make the decision to stay home so it's not the husbands fault, but I just can't imagine it for myself, I don't like that choice. It would be so depressing to stay home all the time. I feel really bad for them, some are doctors and lawyers and spent over 100k on their education and know they are going to progress as well as the others in their field because they have taken too much time off. I suppose it's their choice not to put their kids in daycare.