First design a large enough house that woukd satisy the zoning as it stands... but design it in such a way that it could be built in stages...
Then approach the zoning commission that handles that area and apply for a variance with a time frame on it, IE: 2 yrs for 2nd phase of the house completed etc etc. Tell them that you don't have the need for a larger house immediately as you haven't decided who you were going to settle down with. If they turn it down, appeal it until you get someone to listen.
Third, go straight to the local cops as well as the sheriff and tell them of these 'helpful' neighbors and their thoughts on you living alone there and make sure its on record.
Fourth build the house.
Or you could check the dollar value of the lot and sell for a profit if you can find a more suitable area to live without the idiot squad.
Sheesh and who would have thought architectural college would be needed in this biz!
