26. Are you a swinger? Discuss.
I?ve never considered myself a swinger. But I have been a part of the ?The Lifestyle.?
The distinction, to me, is that ?the lifestyle? has no set meaning besides being ?outside the traditional relationship rules.? It doesn?t mean that you fuck anything and pass your wife around (but it could.)
Being outside the traditional rules means that within a relationship, there has to be tons of communication to figure out what the boundaries are.
Do I need permission? Do we swap with other couples? DO we have group experiences with other couples? Do we invite other women into the fray? Does the woman play with other women? Does oral sex need to be discussed first?
My relationships have always been open on a case by case basis. And the dialogue figuring out OUR boundaries is always enriching.
