12. Is pleasure linked to pain in sexual experience?
As the body's physiological response to aggression and pain is very similar to the body's physiological response to romance and sex, I think it makes all the sense in the world that a lot of people feel a link there. I think a lot more people than most would guess like some pain or domination or bondage, either giving or receiving, in their sex. Still, I don't think sex and pain have to be linked or anything. I'm at least as big a fan of a good massage as anyone.
Personally, I've always been turned on by the outlaw, the outsider, the monster, the ruler, the dangerous lover who could destroy but who chooses not to do so. Probably a metaphor for love in there somewhere.
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