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12. Why did you dump your first husband?
He found God?.or rather? he found a cultish church and encompassed all his time and filled some sort of need in his life at the time. He called me on the phone 2 days before Christmas of 1989 and gave me an ultimatum after he?d heard a fire and brimstone sermon on a Wednesday night at church. He told me that he wouldn?t come home until I agreed to get rid of the tv, stereo, vcr (put no even thing before thine eyes), never cut my hair again, never wear pants, shorts, or jeans again (only dresses), never wear makeup or any jewelry other than a wedding band, get rid of my two cats (yeah at one time I had only two), dress the boys (ages 18 months and 4.5 years at the time) in only long sleeved shirts and long pants (no shorts or tank tops), never see my parents again, and give my paychecks directly to him (he couldn?t manage money or pay bills and in fact at one point was giving over half our meager income to his church).
I told him ?Don?t come home.? Change the locks the next morning, took the boys to a different daycare, and had him served with a restraining order the next day because I was afraid he'd take the boys and hide them away with people from his church. Divorce was friendly...no problems. Told him he regretted everything later. I didn't.
Had very little contact with him over the years. In 2000 we sent a letter to him through the State Child Support office that the boys would like to hear from him. The response was a summons a few months later to go to court to have his child support reduce. This from a man who's barely paid any support at all of what was originally court ordered (when it would have made a difference). From what I've gathered, he's spent time homeless...worked from oddjob to oddjob and not done a heck of alot with his life. Tried to track him down for my oldest son through a private detective. No luck with trying to follow him from previous addresses.
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