Some thoughts on women..

[B40]

No, I did not write this...

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An aging courter`s guide to dating:

Be yourself, not someone else
The quirky aspects about youself will surely engage most mature daters, over the superficial offerings. Instead of showing off and trying hard to win the other person`s affections, be yourself and your own uniqueness will do all the work.

Invest in yourself
Most people want someone that is successful, rich and smart. But before you hunt for those things, think about what you have to offer. Instead of being the hunter, be the hunted. Go make yourself rich, smart, etc. Make yourself a prize to be won, and not a prize-winner.

Not all apples are bad
If all the people you ever dated turned out to be duds (disappointing), don`t jump to irrational conclusions thinking that all men/women are bad. Maybe you only dated a half-dozen people of the opposite-sex, but that does NOT represent an accurate sample of the entire population. Remember, meeting 6 people out of 6 billion, means you can only account for 0.000000001 % of the possible mates you may encounter. Don`t let one bad apple make you think that all apples are bad!

School planning + planning to date
Time is limited and it is the most valuable thing in the world. Money gets used and can always be replaced, but time cannot. Most people don`t go to school and randomly choose a programbecause it`s fun, they choose it based on extensive research and knowing what goals they want to accomplish. Dating should be the same, don`t jump into anything without planning wisely. You may inadvertantly lose a few years of your dating life on some lost cause. Plan ahead, and choose wisely.

Pick a partner like you`re buying a car
Permanent decisions based on temporary feelings are very hazardous. Before buying a car, test drive as many as you can. That way you will be a more knowledgeable and better informed consumer /dater.

Relationship = Investment
Relationships should be beneficial, not sacrificial. If you feel like you are giving up too much of yourself for the sake of someone else, you shouldn`t have to. Think about it this way, when you invest your money in stocks or bonds, there will be ups and downs, but if the stock is continuing to lose, you should dump it before it`s too late.

Choose dates like basketball scouts
When a sports team searches for new players, they send out qualified scouts to find the top potential players. They wouldn`t be naive picking someone they like, but someone who can do the job. You should do the same! Don`t make rash decisions based on emotions, especially if you`re not an experienced scouter!

Relationship like employment
A relationship is like a job, if your bf/gf messes up then just fire them. There`s no need to hang on. There are so many applicants out there waiting in line. So don`t bother taking crap from your mate.

Relationship like food
A relationship is like food. When you buy something that tastes bad, don`t bother to finish it. Just throw it out and save your appetite for something better. I love FOOD!

Getting picked up doesn`t necessarily mean you`re hot
Just because lots of guys pick you up doesn`t mean you`re hot. Usually it`s the real hot girls that never get picked up because guys aretoo intimidated by them. If youget picked up a lot, it likely means that you look easy, or you seem like an easy target.

Annoyances
Girls who think they are in love with the first guy they date. It`s like listening to the 1st track of a CD. You`re not qualified to judge the music you like until you`ve sampled the entire album.

White-belt vs. Black-belt
Girls are naive when they think they know all about guys and relationships but they have limited experience - or even none at all! It doesn`t matter ifyou`ve beendating for over 2 years with just one guy, or even dating older guys. It`s like only having one fight in your life, or just fighting the same person for two years- which is a total lack of experience. I hate it when know-it-all white-belts think they stand a chance against black-belts. To all the virgin daters: how can you even be remotely qualified to judge the outcome of a match, when you haven`t even stepped into the ring? And to all those who dated for a long time, how can you think you`re experienced when you only had one opponent to test yourself against?

Btw car=girl
You want a NEW car. Do you really want one that`s second-hand and has been driven lots, with tons of mileage? It might have a nice paintjob on the surface, but underneath the exterior it is wrecked and spoiled. You`re better off buying a brand new CAR. You get to break it in yourself and you can soup it up yourself to your liking. The more owners a car had, the lesser value it is. When you buy a used car, you buy the problems with it.