somebody explain cuckold to me

[CurrentlySober]

i posted this on her on another topic and got no answer, so i'll copy and paste and ask again.

can somebody explain this logic for me??? i'd been reading wikipedia about cuckold and i don't get it. a man knowingly allows his wife to cheat on him in order for him to watch her have sex with other man and is geting off on being embarrased. it makes no sense to me.

first off, why would anybody get off on being embarrased??? i know i would not. i would be mentally scared for life and it would take me years of theropy to even try to get over somebody i love and trust cheating on me. it's not the cheating part that irks me, it's the fact you are heartless enough to do it in front of me.

i know i'm not the sexiest man on earth, i quite honestly joke that a woman would have to be blind to find me attractive. but i believe if i'm in a relationship, their must be trust and the idea of cuckold does'nt really work for me.

dr. evelin lindner says that humilitation is "the nuclear bomb of the emotions" and dr. roy baumeister says that cuckolding is a form of excapism.

to quote linda richman, discuss.

[_Richard_]

[Harmon]

Ask Robbie. He'll explain it to you. He allows his wife to fuck the BBC and eat their loads.

[Joshua G]

Originally Posted by CurrentlySober

can somebody explain this logic for me??? i'd been reading wikipedia about cuckold and i don't get it. a man knowingly allows his wife to cheat on him in order for him to watch her have sex with other man and is geting off on being embarrased. it makes no sense to me.

first off, why would anybody get off on being embarrased??? i know i would not. i would be mentally scared for life and it would take me years of theropy to even try to get over somebody i love and trust cheating on me. it's not the cheating part that irks me, it's the fact you are heartless enough to do it in front of me.

sounds like dude is a masochist. some peoples genetics dont fall 100% into the male/female stereotypes.

[XMaster]

You actually wrote a whole thread without "poop" ou "dump" inside. I'm impressed.

[bronco67]

Originally Posted by CurrentlySober

i posted this on her on another topic and got no answer, so i'll copy and paste and ask again.

can somebody explain this logic for me??? i'd been reading wikipedia about cuckold and i don't get it. a man knowingly allows his wife to cheat on him in order for him to watch her have sex with other man and is geting off on being embarrased. it makes no sense to me.

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It's called "being a little bitch".

[slapass]

you don't get this fetish? I canname like 15 similar ones that get off on the same type of thing. It is a deal that is all. Some people get off on humiliation. Power struggles are the key to lots of kink.

PS totally with you in that this is a weird one. CBT seems to be very hard to enjoy also.

[nico-t]

and the term itself is also a riddle to me. "cuckold" sounds like a made up word. When i first read it i thought of chickens / roosters.

[slapass]

Originally Posted by nico-t

and the term itself is also a riddle to me. "cuckold" sounds like a made up word. When i first read it i thought of chickens / roosters.

"Cuckold derives from the cuckoo bird, alluding to the alleged habit of the female in changing its mate frequently and authentic (in some species) practice of laying its eggs in other nests within its community."

[k0nr4d]

I think you have it wrong - it's not the wife doing it to be heartless, it's the wife doing it to appease the husband. She's doing it FOR him, not TO him. It's one of many fetishes I don't understand - I don't understand coprofilia or adult baby fetish either...

[MrBottomTooth]

Donny seemed to enjoy it quite well, apparently from both sides. Watching his wife get fucked, and also fucking another man's daughter while he watched.

[safetynetzero]

CurrentlySober....

Some guys really get off being cuckolded. They're wired a bit different than the norm.

It ties in nicely with male chastity, femdom, humiliation or a female led relationship.

Some couples claim that it takes their relationship to incomparable erotic levels. It's not for every couple, that's for sure!

It's typically starts off as the man's fantasy but once a woman gets a taste of a bigger dick, it's tough for her to be satisfied with something smaller.

Hope that was helpful.

[CurrentlySober]

thanks for the responses everybody. bottom line is it don't make sense to me. why would anybody get off on being humilitated??? just like i expect someont to mention, why whould anybody get off on being peed on or defecated on??? don't you know by doing that, your making a statement about your self worth???

i'm starting to think the porno world (and the world in general) is too weird of a place for me. what ever happened to straight up sex??? you know, you and your partner just have sex. no frills, no sidebars, no preamble or fanfare, just shag the holes and both of you cum.

it's a microcosm of our society. a canadian businessman named john bassett once said something along the lines of (and i'm paraphrasing) "life is simple, it's people that complicate the fuck out of it." or another one of my favorite phrases was used by former millwall chairman theo paphitis "K.I.S.S.- Keep It Simple Stupid". why do we have to complicate things more than they have to be??? straight up sex could just be as fun as anything, as long as nobody is geting hurt physcially or mentally?

i don't do casual sex, i'm not the shag on the first date kind of guy and it would take 50 dates before you could get a kiss from me, let alone sex. i'm old fashioned that way. i'm not a prude, i'm just very mistrusting of people, i have misanthropic tendencies and i want to give my sex to somebody who wants it and cherishes it. that's all.

but in closing, i'm used to people not understanding me. because i'm different now, i've been different all my life and will be until i'm taking the old dirt nap.

i'm ranting, anyway, thanks for the responses. i enjoy reading them and i learn from some of them. peace.

[MakeMeGrrrrowl]

Does fucking children make sense to you?

Not likely.

Don't try to make sense of shit that doesn't make sense. =)

[ilnjscb]

Every fetishist seems to imagine that his or her fetish is the most important thing in the world and the key to life. IMHO the dudes are >=.5 gay and are living vicariously through their wives, and the wives are either reluctant performers, as speculated above, or oppositional defiant personalities.

Though I barely know him, seems to me Robbie is not that - he is a performer and his wife is as well.

[MakeMeGrrrrowl]

Originally Posted by CurrentlySober

i don't do casual sex, i'm not the shag on the first date kind of guy and it would take 50 dates before you could get a kiss from me, let alone sex. i'm old fashioned that way. i'm not a prude, i'm just very mistrusting of people, i have misanthropic tendencies and i want to give my sex to somebody who wants it and cherishes it. that's all

Who can wait 50 dates for a kiss?????

[MakeMeGrrrrowl]

Originally Posted by MrBottomTooth

also fucking another man's daughter while he watched.

That father should be *bleep bleep bleep bleep bleep*...things I don't want to say.

[shoot twice]

Cuckold = A gay man in denial in a hetero relationship

Toss in that the biggest parts of this "fetish" is that he prefers his wife be fucked by giant dick black men... AND the drop a load in her pussy so he can lick it clean.

The psychology becomes clear.
The cuckold on some level wants to be the "vagina" and the wife/girlfriend is acting out for him his desires. Furthermore the cuckold wants to be humiliated because he's inwardly harboring resentment towards his masculinity.

[Harmon]

Originally Posted by MakeMeGrrrrowl

Does fucking children make sense to you?

[Best-In-BC]

Selfish people share there women ;)

[Bladewire]

Originally Posted by shoot twice

Toss in that the biggest parts of this "fetish" is that he prefers his wife be fucked by giant dick black men... AND the drop a load in her pussy so he can lick it clean.

You don't understand this fetish at all as the above is a very small subset of cuckold and not the norm. And while racial cuckold gets a lot of attention in the U.S. it's nothe the basis of the fetish.

[DVTimes]

The husband is a sub.

The wife is more dom.

Husband is often also bi and enjoys being a sub for males.

The term comes from nature. It refers to where a bird may place there egg into a nest of another bird. The bird sites on the egg as if its own.

Thus the suggestion is in such a relationship the husband may also be bringing up some other blokes child as his own.

[aka123]

It is synonym for fucked up shit. No reason to think more of it.

[shoot twice]

Originally Posted by Bladewire

You don't understand this fetish at all as the above is a very small subset of cuckold and not the norm. And while racial cuckold gets a lot of attention in the U.S. it's nothe the basis of the fetish.

Perhaps I'm wrong... I don't know.

But truthfully I'm not paid to understand anything. Today if a couple calls me up and asks me to film something I only make sure that everyone is a consenting adult.

After that I stop caring.

What they do... who they do... and what they do with the footage afterwards is none of my business.

[PornoPlopedia]

I can explain it in more familiar terms.
Husband has small dumps
Wife likes big dumps
Husband wants to please wife
Husband bring someone with big dumps to wife
Husband watches stranger with big dumps maybe he learn something
Stranger takes big dump and toilet doesn't flush

[CurrentlySober]

OK, thanks, yes, i understand it now, but i still don't like it. but what bothers me is why somebody would get off on something like that??? last i checked, a marriage is about trust.

for a example, a woman named diana marries a man named lawrence. diana is madly in love with lawrence, diana has never slept with lawrence. diana has never even seen lawrence naked. but on their wedding night, to consummate the marriage, diana finds out lawrence has a 5 inch cock that she can not get off on at all and finds it inadequate. your telling me that lawrence, being a sweet kind man, should be cheated on by diana so she could get her taste of a man she's not married to's 9 inch cock???

there is a word for that, it's called fornication. now i'm not a religious man, quite frankly, i'm a atheist. however, if you make a vow "til death do us part", that probably counts as a promise to stay commited to each other.

the problem i have with society is the individual mindset of the masses that when rules are handed down, they either don't play by those rules or find some exception to the rule so they can achieve the means to an end they seek to accomplish. if you marry somebody, your stuck with them because you made a promise, no exceptions. if your in a religion, you should follow it to the letter. if your friends with somebody, you should go to the ends of the earth for them. it is why i feel our society lacks discipline and thus, people suffer on a moral level.

[mineistaken]

Originally Posted by k0nr4d

I think you have it wrong - it's not the wife doing it to be heartless, it's the wife doing it to appease the husband. She's doing it FOR him, not TO him. It's one of many fetishes I don't understand - I don't understand coprofilia or adult baby fetish either...

My take is that is one of the femdom/humiliation niches where the man is humiliated. So she is doing it TO him, but as a good "slave" or "loser" he likes the humiliation.

[candyflip]

I fuck a few wives who's husbands are like this. I don't get the humiliation part and usually opt out of participating in that aspect. But damn, these woman can be brutal and the husbands seem to enjoy it. So, who the fuck am I to judge?

Thanks for letting me fuck your wife.

And holy fuck, DV Times has contributed what is probably the best way to easily explain it to someone.

[MakeMeGrrrrowl]

Originally Posted by CurrentlySober

the problem i have with society is the individual mindset of the masses that when rules are handed down, they either don't play by those rules or find some exception to the rule so they can achieve the means to an end they seek to accomplish. if you marry somebody, your stuck with them because you made a promise, no exceptions.

People change as years go on. Why be stuck with each other instead of moving on and being happy? I know promises are not MADE to be broken, but the world isn't going to fall apart if you both agree to break that promise.

This is much different than your original question which was really just about a fetish.

ps. cuckolds are my favorite customers. SO MUCH FUN!

[Harmon]

Originally Posted by CurrentlySober

OK, thanks, yes, i understand it now, but i still don't like it. but what bothers me is why somebody would get off on something like that??? last i checked, a marriage is about trust.

for a example, a woman named diana marries a man named lawrence. diana is madly in love with lawrence, diana has never slept with lawrence. diana has never even seen lawrence naked. but on their wedding night, to consummate the marriage, diana finds out lawrence has a 5 inch cock that she can not get off on at all and finds it inadequate. your telling me that lawrence, being a sweet kind man, should be cheated on by diana so she could get her taste of a man she's not married to's 9 inch cock???

there is a word for that, it's called fornication. now i'm not a religious man, quite frankly, i'm a atheist. however, if you make a vow "til death do us part", that probably counts as a promise to stay commited to each other.

the problem i have with society is the individual mindset of the masses that when rules are handed down, they either don't play by those rules or find some exception to the rule so they can achieve the means to an end they seek to accomplish. if you marry somebody, your stuck with them because you made a promise, no exceptions. if your in a religion, you should follow it to the letter. if your friends with somebody, you should go to the ends of the earth for them. it is why i feel our society lacks discipline and thus, people suffer on a moral level.

Different strokes for different folks, man. There are some guys out there that would do everything and ANYTHING to make sure that their wives are happy including, but not limited to allowing her to fuck another man. It may arouse him to see his wife receive something that he knows that he can not provide her.

I personally think it's a very pussy thing to be. I'm a fucking Alpha male and I like to fill my wife/girlfriend up with cum and make her stink to high heaven, knowing that if even a rapist grabbed her and tried to force fuck her he wouldn't want anything to do with her because he would smell me and my man chowder leaking out of her.

That's just me. Some people are Omegas, I guess. Who am I to tell them what they should or shouldn't do?

[k0nr4d]

It's not so much about cheating, it's about the mutual sexual experience for the couple I guess. I doubt the reality of it (at least in most cases) is exactly like the porn, where the wife is some mega bitch to the guy and is all "yeah yeah you little sissy clean up that black cum from my asshole" and the guy does it. As for why it seems to be always black guys fucking the wife, i read this interesting bit:

Participants argue that interracial cuckolding is a by-product of multiculturalism and tolerance. But bigotry — and a dose of white guilt — lie at the heart of any racialized fetish: black men, despite their "superior" sexual prowess, are debased and eroticized, and believed to pose less of a threat because the wives would supposedly never date them.

A male with latent bisexual or gay tendencies may be unwilling to have sex with a man, but can concede to watching his woman in the act and vicariously experience it through her.

[MakeMeGrrrrowl]

Originally Posted by Harmon

I'm a fucking Alpha male

Funniest shit I have read all day.

[DVTimes]

Originally Posted by candyflip

I fuck a few wives who's husbands are like this. I don't get the humiliation part and usually opt out of participating in that aspect. But damn, these woman can be brutal and the husbands seem to enjoy it. So, who the fuck am I to judge?

Thanks for letting me fuck your wife.

And holy fuck, DV Times has contributed what is probably the best way to easily explain it to someone.

he he he

[2MuchMark]

I don't quite understand cuckold either but for a different reason. What if you're a wife swapper and you like watching your wife get fucked. Does that make you a cuckold? Or is cuckold only about black guys? or about humiliation? Aare these niches completely different or do they overlap?

[Wendy-Etology]

that sounds terrible! i dont understand why someone would allow that, and for her to even do that. are you kidding me?

[k0nr4d]

Originally Posted by **********

I don't quite understand cuckold either but for a different reason. What if you're a wife swapper and you like watching your wife get fucked. Does that make you a cuckold? Or is cuckold only about black guys? or about humiliation? Aare these niches completely different or do they overlap?

I think wife swapping is more about getting to fuck someone else's wife, not so much someone fucking your wife.

Here we are, the largest porn industry forum in the world, discussing the sanctity of marriage...

[MakeMeGrrrrowl]

Originally Posted by **********

I don't quite understand cuckold either but for a different reason. What if you're a wife swapper and you like watching your wife get fucked. Does that make you a cuckold? Or is cuckold only about black guys? or about humiliation? Aare these niches completely different or do they overlap?

Most of my cuckold customers aren't into "BBC" cuckolding. It's more of....

Mmmm he makes me feel so much better than you do. He knows how to satisfy me so much more. For a lot of them it's not even about watching her get fucked, it's just KNOWING that she did while she was out "shopping" with her "friends" or at the gym working out with her hot trainer etc. Inspecting her panties when she comes home only to see and smell the cum from god knows how many men.

[nico-t]

Originally Posted by MakeMeGrrrrowl

Most of my cuckold customers aren't into "BBC" cuckolding. It's more of....

how does watching the BBC come into the mix? So another guy fucks some dudes wife, he watches, and is watching the BBC as well? Weird scenario.

[MakeMeGrrrrowl]

Originally Posted by nico-t

how does watching the BBC come into the mix? So another guy fucks some dudes wife, he watches, and is watching the BBC as well? Weird scenario.

Meaning they don't care if the fucker is black or white, they just want her to get fucked.

SOME of them want to talk about black cock - but most of them it's irrelevant. This is my experience over the past 15 years.

[ManPuppy]

Some of them want to use you. Some of them want to get used by you. Some of them want to abuse you. Some of them want to be abused.

The object of attachment in any power exchange fantasy seems almost arbitrary to me. That's probably why there's less money overall in trying to figure out why people do what they do or "correcting" the behavior, than in actually supplying the means to do it.

[Jel]

Originally Posted by Bladewire

You don't understand this fetish at all as the above is a very small subset of cuckold and not the norm. And while racial cuckold gets a lot of attention in the U.S. it's nothe the basis of the fetish.

It's like listening to people try to explain what cfnm 'is' when all they have seen is a handful of clips with the word cfnm in the title

[mineistaken]

Originally Posted by MakeMeGrrrrowl

Most of my cuckold customers aren't into "BBC" cuckolding. It's more of....

Mmmm he makes me feel so much better than you do. He knows how to satisfy me so much more. For a lot of them it's not even about watching her get fucked, it's just KNOWING that she did while she was out "shopping" with her "friends" or at the gym working out with her hot trainer etc. Inspecting her panties when she comes home only to see and smell the cum from god knows how many men.

Originally Posted by candyflip

I fuck a few wives who's husbands are like this. I don't get the humiliation part and usually opt out of participating in that aspect. But damn, these woman can be brutal and the husbands seem to enjoy it. So, who the fuck am I to judge?

Thanks for letting me fuck your wife.

And holy fuck, DV Times has contributed what is probably the best way to easily explain it to someone.

So where do you guys meet so many wifes like that? I want in

[MakeMeGrrrrowl]

Originally Posted by mineistaken

So where do you guys meet so many wifes like that? I want in

Craigslist? lol

[seeandsee]

why do you fins this so interesting?

[mineistaken]

Originally Posted by MakeMeGrrrrowl

Craigslist? lol

You mean you find specific ads where it is said that "hubby will watch"? Or you look for regular ads and you find out cuckold thing after/during the meeting?

[MakeMeGrrrrowl]

Originally Posted by mineistaken

You mean you find specific ads where it is said that "hubby will watch"? Or you look for regular ads and you find out cuckold thing after/during the meeting?

Man I don't know. I'm not even a guy. I just do phone sex.

But if you're really looking maybe try fetlife.com

[PornoPlopedia]

Originally Posted by mineistaken

So where do you guys meet so many wifes like that? I want in

if you are serious there are two major venues:

1- collarspace.com
2- fetlife.com

The men are called wittols or cuckolds
Have fun

[RyuLion]

Originally Posted by CurrentlySober

thanks for the responses everybody. bottom line is it don't make sense to me.

It doesn't make sense to you because it's not your fetish. Everyone has different tastes..

[mineistaken]

Originally Posted by PornoPlopedia

if you are serious there are two major venues:

1- collarspace.com
2- fetlife.com

The men are called wittols or cuckolds
Have fun

I assume (like everywhere on the "adult" sites) there are like 100 single guys for each female/cuckold couple and it is not that easy to get meets?

[PornoMonster]

Originally Posted by k0nr4d

I think you have it wrong - it's not the wife doing it to be heartless, it's the wife doing it to appease the husband. She's doing it FOR him, not TO him. It's one of many fetishes I don't understand - I don't understand coprofilia or adult baby fetish either...

Exactly right.

Some men enjoy seeing the female have an orgasm at any cost.
The ones I have seen do this, the male also usually has a very small penis.