do alot of people actually do Pre-nuptial Agreements these days?

[d-null]

was just reading the following Dear Abby in today's paper where she suggests that the guy makes sure he gets a pre-nup agreement before he gets married to a 19 year old, and it made me wonder how often people actually get pre-nup contracts? is it common?

DEAR ABBY: I am 20. My father, who recently turned 50, is dating a girl, "Amber," who is only 19.

I went to high school with Amber, and I know for a fact there isn't a lot she has to offer him, unless it's trouble.

Our parents divorced 16 years ago, and Dad hasn't had another woman in his life who he really liked. He has dated casually, but this is turning into something serious.

They have been seeing each other only a few weeks, and they are now talking about an engagement.

Abby, Amber has a 6-month-old son. The child's father will have nothing to do with her or the baby. I think she's after Dad for the money, and I do not approve of their relationship. What should I do?

- Upset in Florida

DEAR UPSET: Calm down and bide your time. Their relationship is fresh and new, and many people mistake passion for love in the beginning. Rather than saying you don't approve, if you are given the opportunity, suggest to your father that he and Amber "get to know each other better" before rushing into anything.

If the engagement happens, let your father's attorney in on what's happening. That way he can suggest to your dad the wisdom of having a prenuptial agreement, so he and Amber will both be protected.

P.S. Give the girl a chance. She may not be in it for the money. What she may be looking for is a stable husband and father for her son, and in return she could make your father happy.

[DirtyDanza]

I got a pre nup...

my wife thought I was joking... but when I didn't even go try on my tux til she signed I think she knew I was serious....

it's funny we got married on the 28th and the prenup is signed the 26th LOL... of course get em.. they protect both parties....

ours is like 25pages thick....

[INever]

Post-nup penetration is still deeper.

[WWC]

Every mans situation varys .... but anyone with lots of assets marrying especially a new partner just known for 2 years and especially if very young and your an old fart, ya in that case many do :-)

[mmcfadden]

def. and most certainly get a pre-nup... unless your significant other is loaded then you don't really have to worry

[DarkJedi]

why bother marrying if you don't trust your partner?

LOL

[DarkJedi]

oh and regarding the original post, the fucking is jealous his 50 y/o dad got more game than he, fucking 19 y/o hotties. Also, he should mind his own fucking business.

[mmcfadden]

Originally Posted by Davey Jones

why bother marrying if you don't trust your partner?

LOL

because shit happens my man... that's why

[d-null]

Originally Posted by Davey Jones

oh and regarding the original post, the fucking is jealous his 50 y/o dad got more game than he, fucking 19 y/o hotties. Also, he should mind his own fucking business.

interesting, I didn't even notice that, I assumed the letter writer was a girl, but you might be correct about that

[qxm]

In my pre-nup I'll add a clause saying that if there is no anal there won't be no splitting of monies... lol ..... but I am with Davey there.. .people who are willing to marry someone they don't trust and because they rushed into things deserve a big LOL

[rowan]

Originally Posted by Davey Jones

why bother marrying if you don't trust your partner?

LOL

1) Do you trust people after you've known them a few weeks?

2) Can you be sure they're not going to change (or YOU change) in the next decade or two?

[d-null]

actually I think the idea of marriage is crazy either way, because so many people change after a few years, and you are basically committing to be together and/or pay forever, it just seems like an insane concept

kudos to the 50 year old dude getting the 19 year old hottie, but he should step back and think with his big head and not his little head for a bit or he could end up making a big mistake

[DarkJedi]

Originally Posted by rowan

1) Do you trust people after you've known them a few weeks?

2) Can you be sure they're not going to change (or YOU change) in the next decade or two?

so why marry if you've only know a person for a few weeks?

why marry if you're not sure if the person will change or not? basically, you don't trust the person. so why marry?

[DarkJedi]

Originally Posted by d-null

interesting, I didn't even notice that, I assumed the letter writer was a girl, but you might be correct about that

If it's a girl then she's just jealous of other women fucking her dad.

[ExLust]

Pre-nuptial are for rich people and celebrities.

[Barefootsies]

I no intentions of getting married personally, but if I ever did. Pre-nup.

The lone exception (hypothetically) would be a woman who was around during the hard times, stood by your side when you were not making any money, and ten years down the line you are successful.

In my eyes, that woman has earned her keep, paid her dues, whatever. She stuck with you when you were broke or had little to offer, even if unmarried at the time. She deserves the gravy train if you get married, and a piece of that pie.

[kane]

Originally Posted by Davey Jones

so why marry if you've only know a person for a few weeks?

why marry if you're not sure if the person will change or not? basically, you don't trust the person. so why marry?

I think marrying anyone you have only known a few weeks is dumb. I've never been married, but before I got married I would be with her for a pretty long time and we would have lived together for a decent amount of time.

You can count on people changing. That is what people do. The question is will those changes include you in them of if you change will those changes include your spouse in them. A pre-nup makes sure that when you change, if the marriage doesn't last, both parties are protected.

Here are a couple of examples.

1. I have a friend who got married at 24. The girl he married was 20. They started dating when he was 22 and she was 18. They lived together for about 6 months before getting married. They were married 3 years. About 1.5 years into the marriage things changed. She was now 21 and wanted to out clubbing and partying with her friends (as most 21 year olds do). He was then about 26 then and was past that phase in his life and often he had to work nights. Eventually they grew apart because she was always off with her friends and he didn't want to go so she found someone else that did want to go. They got divorced. He bought a house when they first got married then sold it and bought a nice big house. She told him that was the dream house she had always wanted. She spent exactly 1 night in the house then left him the day after they moved in. With no pre-nup he had to choose to give her 50% of the value of his pension from the time they were married or 50% of the equity in the house. He chose the house. He also had to pay off her car, pay part of her student loans and agree to pay her car insurance for the next 2 years. He had a good paying job before they ever met. When they divorced she was around 23-24 and had never worked a day since they were together. She was always going to school for one thing or another. She never added one dime to the marriage and yet she walked away with a nice chunk. A pre-nup could have allowed him to save some of the money he earned and worked hard for.

2. A couple gets married. One of them has a bunch of money coming into the relationship. The other has next to nothing. They stay married for 5-7 years then divorce. There are no kids to fight over. You can bet without a pre-nup the person that had nothing coming into that relationship will leave with a nice chunk of that money after the divorce even though it was created before they even met. A pre-nup can help clarify that. The wealthy one can set it up so the one with nothing gets something at the split, but without it they could lose a lot, maybe even half.

A pre-nup isn't saying you don't trust them. It is simply saying that if, for some unseen reason things don't work out, the separation of things is on record. It sounds cold, but more than half of all marriages don't work, so I think in these days it is nearly a must if one of the two people involved has any amount assets.

If you both get into the marriage with nothing and you work together to build up your assets then splitting them is the only fair thing to do, but if not, the person who came in with a lot should be allowed to determine how much of that they want to give the other person should a divorce occur.

[Mr Pheer]

A prenup is worth more than plutonium. If you dont believe me, then go be one of those idiots that never listens to anyone and has to learn everything the hard way.

[Sosa]

We did a pre-nup and my wife had no problem with it. Pretty much just protects my company so why wouldn't I get one.

Look at the story.. the guy is 50, she's 19... Nobody in their right mind would want to marry someone almost 3 times their age for "love". She's a gold digger. Pre-nup that shit geezer.

[Raf1]

Originally Posted by Sosa

We did a pre-nup and my wife had no problem with it. Pretty much just protects my company so why wouldn't I get one.

I'll be getting a pre-nup for the same reason you did. Besides, it's easier to convince the girl this way

[HorseShit]

Originally Posted by DirtyDanza

I got a pre nup...

my wife thought I was joking... but when I didn't even go try on my tux til she signed I think she knew I was serious....

it's funny we got married on the 28th and the prenup is signed the 26th LOL... of course get em.. they protect both parties....

ours is like 25pages thick....

I like the look of that new banner

[TheStout]

I dont buy this whole if you don't trust someone don't marry them. Who knows how one will think in 10 or 20 years. Trust can be lost. To me it seems like NOT having a prenup is one of the reasons people get divorced in the first place. Someone gets bored and realizes they could sell everything and split it in half and start a new life. If you have the prenup you know what you own and that wouldn't seem to help factor a gain in anyway for one party. It would also prevent the feeling you are owed something. Since money is one of the leading causes of arguments between spouses and couples wouldn't it help if each party had their own finances separately from the get go?

[slapass]

Get the prenup. The old fashion version of marriage is total bs so why lock yourself into that? I know a guy who has paid alimony for 30 years. The marriage was only 10. A very extreme casse but can still happen so why f around with that?

[blazin]

Originally Posted by ExLust

Pre-nuptial are for rich people and celebrities.

Nope... reminds me of a chris rock skit about OJ



"you got 20 million and your wife wants 10... big deal.. you ain't starvin'"

"but if you make 30 thousand and your wife want 15..... you might have to kill her!"

[punker barbie]

Originally Posted by Barefootsies

I no intentions of getting married personally, but if I ever did. Pre-nup.

The lone exception (hypothetically) would be a woman who was around during the hard times, stood by your side when you were not making any money, and ten years down the line you are successful.

In my eyes, that woman has earned her keep, paid her dues, whatever. She stuck with you when you were broke or had little to offer, even if unmarried at the time. She deserves the gravy train if you get married, and a piece of that pie.

you have officially turned me on

[beemk]

Originally Posted by Davey Jones

why bother marrying if you don't trust your partner?

LOL

same reason you get health insurance or car insurance, because you cant predict the future.

[jmcb420]

Originally Posted by Barefootsies

I no intentions of getting married personally, but if I ever did. Pre-nup.

The lone exception (hypothetically) would be a woman who was around during the hard times, stood by your side when you were not making any money, and ten years down the line you are successful.

In my eyes, that woman has earned her keep, paid her dues, whatever. She stuck with you when you were broke or had little to offer, even if unmarried at the time. She deserves the gravy train if you get married, and a piece of that pie.

Please share your drugs with me.

BTW, I agree. If said woman does in fact exist.