My son SHOCKED to see a black person

[czarina]

He's 4 years old and for the last 2 years we've been living in Cancun, Mexico, where there are no blacks. I took him to a playground this week and there was this adorably cute black girl who kept trying to play with my son (since he was only kid there speaking English).
But my son kept moving away from her and pushing her away. I asked him why he was being mean and he said "there's something wrong with her, she's very brown. I don't like it."
OOPS!
I had to explain that there are people who are darker and that not everybody has the same skin color, etc. He finally agreed to play with her, but you could tell he wasn't happy about it. I felt terrible for the poor girl, she was very sweet, and her parents were extremely well mannered people from the Islands.

[FrozenJag]

Thats so sad

You are gonna have to get out more with him I guess. Im not sure what to say.

Thats good you explained things to him atleast. I dont have kids yet but I can see that being really tough to try and explain especially if you dont live in an area with other color type of people.

[WebCashMaker]

Hard to believe people are not dark in Cancun.

[Imortyl Pussycat]

same exact thing happened with my daughter when she was about 2 years old but it was with an adult. she completely lost it and started screaming, wouldn't let my friend hold her. i was so embarrassed i didn't know what to say. we had a nice chat about all the people in the world and their differences. had to pull up different cultures and pics on the net to prove to her that there was not only 1 skin color or 1 culture. she was fine after that.

[daniel_webcams]

he will get used with this ... very soon...

[tranza]

go with he to africa!

[Serial Pervert]

that's really sad, you should talk to him

[fuzebox]

I still remember the first time I met a black kid my own age when I was like 5-6 years old... I just kept staring and staring.

[pornguy]

Originally Posted by WebCashMaker

Hard to believe people are not dark in Cancun.

Different kind of dark. Remember that Mexicans are largely mixed with Indian blood so the skin is red and not the black color a different brown shade.

[VikingMan]

Perhaps he prefers the latina girls. Smart little kid, I know I do

[goldfish]

Similar situation happened to me, as an adult. I grew up up north in a VERY small town, moved to the south into an area where there are very few black ppl so I was rather sheltered to say the least, I was 20 or so before I ever met a black person.

My first yr here I spent everyday in the sun, I had a tan that most ppl would die for. Was standing in line one day and this little black girl, cute as hell, about 8 years old, walked up to me and says with the coolest southern drawl I have ever heard, "ur soooooo Taaannn." Being "sheltered" all my life the first thing that came to mind when I turned around, "well so are you." I caught myself before I actually said it and simply thanked her. But the hesitation was embarrassing.

My point expose that child to as many people as possible, black, white, asian, indian, mexican... My best friend is now an amazing person that isn't of "color", well, she is black, but I don't see her as black I see her as an amazing human being and great friend that just has a better tan than I do.

[ShellyCrash]

The first friend I remember making on my own was a little black boy at preschool. I don't remember his name but we would play Voltron and he would always want to be the pink one (the girl) and would often lament that there wasn't a pink lion.

It may sound weird, but looking back I think it probably really prevented alot of walls people tend to put up over their lives about the kind of people they associate with.

[mayabong]

I'm from new orleans so grew up with little black kids, I was shocked to see I was white.

[ShellyCrash]

Originally Posted by mayabong

I'm from new orleans so grew up with little black kids, I was shocked to see I was white.

[Bman]

Should invite the people over for dinner...had people of every color over at our house growing up...Kids are kids

[Young]

Originally Posted by czarina

and her parents were extremely well mannered people from the Islands.

Were you expecting different?

[papill0n]

Originally Posted by czarina

He's 4 years old and for the last 2 years we've been living in Cancun, Mexico, where there are no blacks. I took him to a playground this week and there was this adorably cute black girl who kept trying to play with my son (since he was only kid there speaking English).
But my son kept moving away from her and pushing her away. I asked him why he was being mean and he said "there's something wrong with her, she's very brown. I don't like it."
OOPS!
I had to explain that there are people who are darker and that not everybody has the same skin color, etc. He finally agreed to play with her, but you could tell he wasn't happy about it. I felt terrible for the poor girl, she was very sweet, and her parents were extremely well mannered people from the Islands.

for your son to say that he would have had to heard that from someone

guess the most likely source....

[czarina]

no, I wasn't expecting any different. I was just embarrassed BECAUSE her parents were so nice.

for your son to say that he would have had to heard that from someone

There are NO blacks here, so it's not like I walk around talking about blacks. Plus if I were to speak about black people, I wouldn't say "brown people", so trust me, he didn't hear that from me. Also, I'm not racist at all, I have great friends from all races and creeds; this just happened to shock my kid.

[2012]

[papill0n]

Originally Posted by czarina

no, I wasn't expecting any different. I was just embarrassed BECAUSE her parents were so nice.


There are NO blacks here, so it's not like I walk around talking about blacks. Plus if I were to speak about black people, I wouldn't say "brown people", so trust me, he didn't hear that from me. Also, I'm not racist at all, I have great friends from all races and creeds; this just happened to shock my kid.

why would any kid think there was something 'wrong' with them then ?

why would you even post that your 4yo son is already making racist comments ?

[papill0n]

Originally Posted by 2012

enjoy the ban hammer idiot

[Sly]

Originally Posted by papill0n

why would any kid think there was something 'wrong' with them then ?

why would you even post that your 4yo son is already making racist comments ?

Are you around little kids often? It's pretty normal for little kids to stare and point and even be afraid of things that they don't know. If a little kid saw red apples every day of his life and then suddenly saw a green one, yes, they would think something is wrong with that green apple.

He just needs exposure.

[CDSmith]

Give your boy a good spanking and I'm sure he'll be fine.

[GrouchyAdmin]

Same thing happens to my worthless stepfather - every fucking time.

[POed-poster]

Originally Posted by 2012

STUPID PIC SNIPPED

You're a stupid fucking moron!

[2012]

Originally Posted by papill0n

enjoy the ban hammer idiot

Thanks Idiot See if I ever tell you happy birthday on icq again

[POed-poster]

Kids are not born this way. They LEARN how to hate. They clearly learned it somewhere from someone.

[2012]

Originally Posted by POed-poster

You're a stupid fucking moron!

What does that make you?

[Ayla_SquareTurtle]

Doesn't he watch Sesame Street? I knew all about different races as a kid even though I lived in an all white neighborhood. By the time I did meet black people it was no big deal because Big Bird hung out with black people, too.

[papill0n]

Originally Posted by Sly

Are you around little kids often? It's pretty normal for little kids to stare and point and even be afraid of things that they don't know. If a little kid saw red apples every day of his life and then suddenly saw a green one, yes, they would think something is wrong with that green apple.

He just needs exposure.

No they would think it was a 'different' apple. Why would they think it was 'wrong' ?

[halfpint]

Hasent he ever seen a black kid on the TV ? ...Kids say it like it is

[POed-poster]

Originally Posted by 2012

Thanks Idiot See if I ever tell you happy birthday on icq again

You are a stupid worthless racist cunt.

[2012]

Originally Posted by POed-poster

You are a stupid worthless racist cunt.

I might have to start drinking again so I can argue with you properly.

[Sly]

Originally Posted by papill0n

No they would think it was a 'different' apple. Why would they think it was 'wrong' ?

Ah, I see that you have never been a victim of a "child's hate" as you might put it. I've had numerous little kids say "something is wrong with him" to me. They are little kids. Something strange and new to them is often scary. Some handle it much better than others.

All you can do is teach them and move on.

[brassmonkey]

kids are sponges he picked it up somewhere

[Ramp]

Your sun is a young racist

[just a punk]

Originally Posted by czarina

But my son kept moving away from her and pushing her away. I asked him why he was being mean and he said "there's something wrong with her, she's very brown. I don't like it." OOPS!

No prob at all. He's just a small kid. Personally I don't see any reason to discuss this here.

[just a punk]

Originally Posted by Ramp

Your sun is a young racist

The Sun can not be a racist. It's just a star.

[CDSmith]

Originally Posted by papill0n

No they would think it was a 'different' apple. Why would they think it was 'wrong' ?

I'll have to agree with Sly on this one. It's not true in very case mind you, but many many kids do seem to instinctually be wary even to the point of aversion of certain things or iin this case people that are different or unfamiliar.

Case in point: When I was a little kid (like maybe 3-to-4 yrs old) I recall a particular day when a bunch of us kids were playing tag or some such game in a neighbor's yard. This one kid I'd never seen before that day was playing and he was deaf and mute. He didn't look different than anyone else, he just acted different. He was different, to the rest of us.

Now, I'm not sure what made me do it that day. It could be he was getting special attention or simply that he was 'different' than the rest of us, I'm not sure, but at some point I up and slapped him across the face. ("TAG...you're IT!") I remember at the time thinking everyone else would think it was a good thing I did, slapping the "dumb" kid. But in fact as it turned out it was a bad thing, and everyone present was angry that I did it, and quite disgusted with my behavior. My older sister was absolutely outraged.

I'll never forget the look on that kid's face either. He didn't cry exactly, but just touched his cheek with his hand as he looked at me questioningly, hurt obviously, his expression basically saying "why did you do that? I just wanted to be friends".

I tell you I instantly became ashamed of what I had done, and will never forget the look on that kid's face and the hurt I had caused. I certainly didn't learn it from my parents, but I did learn from it. I can't say for certain but I very likely got a spanking later on from the old man. If I did I don't remember it, but I do remember that kid and will never forget the lesson I learned that day. That being --- wait until you get them alone, then go in for the kill. :D ... kidding. I definitely became someone who sticks up for people like that kid rather than one who throws ridicule and violence at them.

As Sly said, it's "a kid" thing. Not in every kid, but in many. It's either fostered and encouraged and reinforced by one's family or it's frowned upon and hopefully the kid learns from it, as I did.

[Longboat full of Vikings]

That's all well and good until your 4 year old son grows up to get his ass beaten by Oakland bus darkies because he thought they were just as normal as you or I.

[Babaganoosh]

I wonder how many people started browsing real estate listings in Cancun just now.

[ninavain]

Originally Posted by WebCashMaker

Hard to believe people are not dark in Cancun.

thats what i was thinking...lol

[BVF]

When I was a little kid (under 2 yrs old), my mother told me that she took me to the local mall in Detroit...When she sat me on the lap of the black Santa Claus, I started to cry because I was only used to seeing a white one on tv.....Obviously, I had no problem once she sat me on a white santa.

[CDSmith]

Originally Posted by Longboat full of Vikings

That's all well and good until your 4 year old son grows up to get his ass beaten by Oakland bus darkies because he thought they were just as normal as you or I.

I vote this post for the gold medal of this thread,

Originally Posted by Babaganoosh

I wonder how many people started browsing real estate listings in Cancun just now.

...and this one for the silver.


Bronze is still up for grabs.

[andrej_NDC]

Originally Posted by POed-poster

Kids are not born this way. They LEARN how to hate. They clearly learned it somewhere from someone.

Or they just had a bad experience on they own...


I don't think my kids saw a black person either, but they surely did on TV, so it doesn't shock them, luckily.

[Babaganoosh]

Originally Posted by POed-poster

Kids are not born this way. They LEARN how to hate. They clearly learned it somewhere from someone.

Probably an inner city black. That's who taught me at the ripe age of 15.