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TurboAngel · 08-24-2010, 09:25 AM

Is now pregnant

at 17. I have no clue how to handle this. Has anyone had this happen? She was on BC but had to take antibiotics we all know what that means, her mother and I stressed how she needed to use condoms but as most 17 year old she ignored us.

Serial Pervert · 08-24-2010, 09:26 AM

abortion?

Tjeezers · 08-24-2010, 09:29 AM

Ahhh Family Drama

Well does not have to become drama. Just stand by her, and support her in her choices whatever they may be.

I admit, heavy subject, but you can make it as difficult as you can, it will not change the situation now.

I know you have some sort of a ongoing energy level, even when people bash you here, you still stand your personality. I am sure you find a way to deal with this.

cambaby · 08-24-2010, 09:30 AM

Im feeling nice today so I wont make any crude remarks but abortion is not the answer, try adoption there are MANY couples out there who want babies.

Even you uber-liberals here will agree that giving a baby up for adoption to a gay couple is better than killing it.

Tjeezers · 08-24-2010, 09:31 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cambaby

Even you uber-liberals here will agree that giving a baby up for adoption to a gay couple is better than killing it.

I just got a brain shock so spot on you are

Tom_PM · 08-24-2010, 09:32 AM

How to handle it begins with finding out what the woman wants. Actually, it ends there too. So.. ask her what she wants.

Tom_PM · 08-24-2010, 09:37 AM

As for the father, he should probably go google "putative fathers registry".

TurboAngel · 08-24-2010, 09:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by PR_Tom

How to handle it begins with finding out what the woman wants. Actually, it ends there too. So.. ask her what she wants.

She's 17 so she wants to have the baby and keep going to school, the one thing is she's gotten all A from kindergarten till now. This is her last year of high school and she was looking forward to going to UNC dental program.

babymaker · 08-24-2010, 09:39 AM

Better than pregnant at 30 or 40 lol like cocotomom

seeandsee · 08-24-2010, 09:39 AM

stressful situation, i hope you will work out the best option

cambaby · 08-24-2010, 09:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TurboAngel

She's 17 so she wants to have the baby and keep going to school, the one thing is she's gotten all A from kindergarten till now. This is her last year of high school and she was looking forward to going to UNC dental program.

There is no reason having a baby should make your grades go down? Seriously? Lots of people achieve great things and still have children at a fairly young age.

Have faith in her!

mlove · 08-24-2010, 09:40 AM

my cousin had a kid at 16. It happens, kids are stupid, it's possible she might have wanted to get knocked up.

Anyway, lucky dude, that guy who got to drop a load in her.

Lukke · 08-24-2010, 09:42 AM

Good for her, man.

candyflip · 08-24-2010, 09:42 AM

It feels soooo much better without a rubber. You know this.

The better question is, why wasn't this girl on some other sort of birth control.

Scott McD · 08-24-2010, 09:42 AM

You make 17 sound young.

Here in the UK, 17 and pregnant is a late starter lol...

thickcash_amo · 08-24-2010, 09:46 AM

I know its stressful, but it doesn't have to be a bad experience. I am sure she is scared too, and is feeling very confused. I would suggest to sit down with her and ask her how she feels. Maybe let her know about her options and talk with her mom too. This is so common now that there are lots of people going through the same thing and talk about it in groups and blogs...maybe check those out too! Hope this helps.

damnage · 08-24-2010, 09:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Scott McD

You make 17 sound young.

Here in the UK, 17 and pregnant is a late starter lol...

You only say that since you are from Scotland.

Last time I looked, wining and dining before sex in Scotland consists of a kebab and a can of tennants before a quick fumble behind a broken brick wall.

Correct me if I'm wrong.

TurboAngel · 08-24-2010, 09:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cambaby

There is no reason having a baby should make your grades go down? Seriously? Lots of people achieve great things and still have children at a fairly young age.

Have faith in her!

I know that but I know having a baby will make it so much harder. The guy is an asshole and I just want her to go on and end up a great dentist.

Tom_PM · 08-24-2010, 09:51 AM

She sounds kind of smart from your post. Someone looking ahead to college and life is not exactly a bad candidate to have a baby. In 1 year, nobody will be able to imagine it being any different.

MaDalton · 08-24-2010, 09:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by damnage

You only say that since you are from Scotland.

Last time I looked, wining and dining before sex in Scotland consists of a kebab and a can of tennants before a quick fumble behind a broken brick wall.

Correct me if I'm wrong.

JakeR · 08-24-2010, 09:58 AM

tell her to pop out a couple more kids, apply for section 8 housing and the link card

jimmy-3-way · 08-24-2010, 09:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cambaby

Even you uber-liberals here will agree that giving a baby up for adoption to a gay couple is better than killing it.

It's not a baby, it's a fetus.

TurboAngel · 08-24-2010, 10:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JakeR

tell her to pop out a couple more kids, apply for section 8 housing and the link card

She's sure as fuck not going to do that! She'll be going to UNC in 2 years!

cambaby · 08-24-2010, 10:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jimmy-3-way

It's not a baby, it's a fetus.

You arent a human you are an animal. Semantics.

mlove · 08-24-2010, 10:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TurboAngel

She's sure as fuck not going to do that! She'll be going to UNC in 2 years!

A lot can change in 2 years, especially with a baby on the way.

cambaby · 08-24-2010, 10:05 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TurboAngel

I know that but I know having a baby will make it so much harder. The guy is an asshole and I just want her to go on and end up a great dentist.

You better suck it up and support her 110% because at this moment you can either help destroy her(possibly for life emotionally) by going against what she wants or you can be her rock.

Life is fucking hard, period if you think a baby is the biggest challenge that girl will face in this life... no I know you dont you are smarter than that and sounds like so is she.

Johnny Rocco · 08-24-2010, 10:06 AM

Happened to a dear friend of the family...she too was 17. Got knocked up by a THUG loser ...was very difficult at first for the family to deal with. However two years down the road with a very strong support system from her IMMEDIATE family (and with the Thug in prison) they now have a wonderful little baby who brings joy and laughter. It helped bond the family actually!

Do not care what others think - do whats best for HER - be there for her no matter what. Withouth knowhing the situation with the sperm donor, She will most likely make rash and dumb decisions with hopes of having a family, etc. But in time things will work out and get better. You will LOVE that baby,. Hope all goes well - sending he positive thoughts!

area51 - BANNED FOR LIFE · 08-24-2010, 10:08 AM

She's fucked for life.

No college or career for her.

She'll be on facebook all day like other teen moms.

TurboAngel · 08-24-2010, 10:11 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by candyflip

It feels soooo much better without a rubber. You know this.

The better question is, why wasn't this girl on some other sort of birth control.

She was but had to take antibiotics they for some reason make BC pills not work.

PlugRush Sascha · 08-24-2010, 10:11 AM

Unless her mother or someone closely related to her is down for watching that baby pretty much all day while she's in medical school, there is no way this girl is going to have the life she planned for herself and become a dentist. If she wants to focus on school, her best options are abortion or adoption. Depending on how far along she is, abortion is basically murder so I would go the adoption route.

There are a lot of couples that can't have children and will even pay all her medical bills, etc. to adopt the baby. Babies are easy (rationally, not necessarily emotionally) to give up for adoption, because they usually end up in great homes. Given her scholastic background she would be seen as a responsible person to adopt from. It seems like it was a pretty big mistake she made, but other than that she probably won't be drinking and smoking crack during the pregnancy so she could be a prime candidate.

In the end, it should be her choice to make. Once she has the facts she basically has to pick adoption, abortion or "keep it". The decision will most likely change her life, but that's how it is.

mlove · 08-24-2010, 10:14 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by area51

She's fucked for life.

No college or career for her.

She'll be on facebook all day like other teen moms.

That's not true! She'll also be on camz.com!

TurboAngel · 08-24-2010, 10:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tjeezers

I know you have some sort of a ongoing energy level, even when people bash you here, you still stand your personality. I am sure you find a way to deal with this.

Thanks for that!

CIVMatt · 08-24-2010, 10:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by area51

She's fucked for life.

No college or career for her.

She'll be on facebook all day like other teen moms.

Sadly probably true

Bryan G · 08-24-2010, 10:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by damnage

You only say that since you are from Scotland.

Last time I looked, wining and dining before sex in Scotland consists of a kebab and a can of tennants before a quick fumble behind a broken brick wall.

Correct me if I'm wrong.

lemme guess you are english??

one to talk

Semi-Retired-Dave · 08-24-2010, 10:29 AM

It's a very hard position to be in, you just need to support her. Can't talk to her about giving it up for adoption because that sounds easier then it sounds. Abortion is a very difficult topic and may be something she'll regret the rest of her life, and won't be fair to the fetus.

Just make sure she finishes school, but make sure B/F is ready to pay up and support the baby 100% one way or another.

She shouldn't give up her career plans because of this.

Sounds easy from the outside, good luck either way. Hope it all works out for you.

ShellyCrash · 08-24-2010, 10:35 AM

What does her mother do? If her mom can help her with child care for the first 2 years she will prob be able to make it.

ottopottomouse · 08-24-2010, 10:43 AM

Let her have the baby then get the midwife to drown it. That'll learn her. [/troll]

Can't say she is going to be able to carry on with her chosen education+career but not everything that at first looks like a really bad mistake turns out to be one and she may actually end up being in a better position in 10 years time because of it. I know several women who had a baby at 18 and now in their 30s they are in decent jobs.

TurboAngel · 08-24-2010, 10:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ShellyCrash

What does her mother do? If her mom can help her with child care for the first 2 years she will prob be able to make it.

She's able to help but was a teen mother herself and it's where she would like to be in life. We both are scared that if she has this baby and keeps it things won't turn out good just like some of the people in this thread have said.

FeelMyTube · 08-24-2010, 11:02 AM

I know a girl who did med school after having a kid on 1st or 2nd year, she's also still together with the father and they are really happy together (he was in college with her)...

it all depends on the circunstances (how mature she is, can the family provide support during college years, does she want the baby, does the father want the baby, etc...)

she will miss some of the experiences of being a teenager / college student for sure but it doesn't have to be a big drama, depends on what kind of girl she is.

damnage · 08-24-2010, 11:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bryan G

lemme guess you are english??

one to talk

Wrong, but thanks anyway.

And I know I'm right about the scots. Hell I even dated one for a time along with spending some time up there.

kristin · 08-24-2010, 11:09 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cambaby

Im feeling nice today so I wont make any crude remarks but abortion is not the answer, try adoption there are MANY couples out there who want babies.

Even you uber-liberals here will agree that giving a baby up for adoption to a gay couple is better than killing it.

It's a difficult thing at age 17, there can be more circumstances that lead to abortion over adoption.

But I do agree in gays being allowed to adopt.

One thing they have here in Tucson, is like baby drop-off. So if you don't want your baby, you can go drop it off at any hospital, some of the women centers, etc and no questions asked, not even your name.

DWB · 08-24-2010, 11:09 AM

WHAT??!?!!!!

She said she was 18 AND on the pill!!!!!

kristin · 08-24-2010, 11:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TurboAngel

She was but had to take antibiotics they for some reason make BC pills not work.

I'm guessing they both worked the same organ thus making the birth control less effective.

I couldn't take birth control because of my seizure meds, they both work on the kidney (I think) and it would make the birth control pills only 75% effective.

Raf1 · 08-24-2010, 11:22 AM

support her and it will work out. I know many people in their mid 30's that have almost grown up kids and most of them are doing very well. She might avoid a lot of mistakes in her life. This could turn out a life saver for her...

_Richard_ · 08-24-2010, 11:23 AM

open adoption a possibility?

TurboAngel · 08-24-2010, 11:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kristin

I'm guessing they both worked the same organ thus making the birth control less effective.

I couldn't take birth control because of my seizure meds, they both work on the kidney (I think) and it would make the birth control pills only 75% effective.

You would think they could come up with BC pills that still work when on antibiotics.

xmas13 · 08-24-2010, 11:49 AM

Who's the father?

VikingMan · 08-24-2010, 12:30 PM

What is the father of the baby like?

TurboAngel · 08-24-2010, 02:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DirtyWhiteBoy

WHAT??!?!!!!

She said she was 18 AND on the pill!!!!!

j/k so when will you be in the US to take care of this prob?

pornguy · 08-24-2010, 02:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TurboAngel

She's sure as fuck not going to do that! She'll be going to UNC in 2 years!

Bahahhahahahhahahhahahha

08-24-2010, 09:25 AM	#1
TurboAngel H.B.I.C. Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: NC Posts: 30,122	So my God Daughter ..... Is now pregnant at 17. I have no clue how to handle this. Has anyone had this happen? She was on BC but had to take antibiotics we all know what that means, her mother and I stressed how she needed to use condoms but as most 17 year old she ignored us.

08-24-2010, 09:26 AM	#2
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08-24-2010, 09:29 AM	#3
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08-24-2010, 10:06 AM	#27
Johnny Rocco Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 38	Happened to a dear friend of the family...she too was 17. Got knocked up by a THUG loser ...was very difficult at first for the family to deal with. However two years down the road with a very strong support system from her IMMEDIATE family (and with the Thug in prison) they now have a wonderful little baby who brings joy and laughter. It helped bond the family actually! Do not care what others think - do whats best for HER - be there for her no matter what. Withouth knowhing the situation with the sperm donor, She will most likely make rash and dumb decisions with hopes of having a family, etc. But in time things will work out and get better. You will LOVE that baby,. Hope all goes well - sending he positive thoughts!

08-24-2010, 10:08 AM	#28
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08-24-2010, 10:11 AM	#30
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