My Year So Far... - GoFuckYourself.com

garce · 11-26-2010, 08:39 PM

Forgive me if I have no sympathy for you. Forgive me if I come across as being rude at times.

I am done with bullshit. Why?

My mother-in-law died in April. She was sick. In 1995 she was given 6 months to live. Its been a nail-biter since then.

In May - right after my birthday - a good friend of mine hung himself. I found this out because another friend walked int his apartment and found him. Dead and hanging.

Later in May, my estranged niece was murdered n Bancroft. I hadn't seen her in years, but I have some great memories from when she was a kid.

My mother died in June. She did not leave a will, or have any insurance. I spent three years caring fr her, taking her to doctor's appointments, taking her to therapy, calling 911 on a regular basis. I'm left to deal with her mountain of debt, and left to care for my severely handicapped sister. What? I'm supposed to put my sister in a home? That's not going to happen. She'd die there.

I could live without the $183,000 debt, though. Thanks, mom! (I did try to get her finances in order. I couldn't force her - or get power of attorney).

My aunt just told me that my grabdfather's second wife finally succomed that's been eating away at her for years. Even though she wasn't my biological grandmother, she was good woman.

So, if you whine about something, forgive me for not giving a fuck.

Si · 11-26-2010, 08:44 PM

Sounds like a terrible year for you

Yet,

You have still posted more useful threads/posts on this forum than about 85% of people here.

Kudos to you

garce · 11-26-2010, 08:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Si

Sounds like a terrible year for you

Yet,

You have still posted more useful threads/posts on this forum than about 85% of people here.

Kudos to you

GFY is just about the only place where one can vent. I might get a few lumps and bruises here, but I have no trouble letting off steam - and I'm thankful for that. I'm not American, but I am thankful today. I am thankful for GFY. /asskissing

I'd say I'm about 10% helpful, 70% idiot, 20% random chit-chat. But I appreciate the vote of confidence. Your reply was a mood booster.

Intrinsic · 11-26-2010, 09:12 PM

Shit!!! Good luck 2 ya

garce · 11-26-2010, 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Intrinsic

Shit!!! Good luck 2 ya

It'll only get better. I fucking hope.

The Porn Nerd · 11-26-2010, 09:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by garce

Forgive me if I have no sympathy for you. Forgive me if I come across as being rude at times.

I am done with bullshit. Why?

My mother-in-law died in April. She was sick. In 1995 she was given 6 months to live. Its been a nail-biter since then.

In May - right after my birthday - a good friend of mine hung himself. I found this out because another friend walked int his apartment and found him. Dead and hanging.

Later in May, my estranged niece was murdered n Bancroft. I hadn't seen her in years, but I have some great memories from when she was a kid.

My mother died in June. She did not leave a will, or have any insurance. I spent three years caring fr her, taking her to doctor's appointments, taking her to therapy, calling 911 on a regular basis. I'm left to deal with her mountain of debt, and left to care for my severely handicapped sister. What? I'm supposed to put my sister in a home? That's not going to happen. She'd die there.

I could live without the $183,000 debt, though. Thanks, mom! (I did try to get her finances in order. I couldn't force her - or get power of attorney).

My aunt just told me that my grabdfather's second wife finally succomed that's been eating away at her for years. Even though she wasn't my biological grandmother, she was good woman.

So, if you whine about something, forgive me for not giving a fuck.

Garce - I know we go back-and-forth on my not updating my AP since April so let's put that aside for 3 seconds here:

I'm very close to my mother. I am very, very sorry for your loss in June (and for all the other losses and death that seems to surround you, for whatever reason, this year). My sister is also severely handicapped. As in: doesn't speak, wears diapers, needs assistance in everything. She's 50 years old. I am her Gaurdian. I would never, ever put her in a home once my mom is gone. So I feel for you.

Bash me any fucking time you want brother. Hang in there, it gets better, declare bankrupcy if it helps you get your mom's debt off your back. It gets better but don't fogret to give yourself permission to feel whatever fucked up things come up. It's all part of the process of cleansing grief.

Resume hating me now.

baddog · 11-26-2010, 10:04 PM

Here is hoping 2011 is better for you.

Elli · 11-26-2010, 11:28 PM

That's a mess of shit to deal with, if you don't mind me saying so. I'm very sorry for your losses. Focus on the good things, no matter how small they are. Even sappy stuff like kittens and flowers. It all helps in the long run.

Spunky · 11-26-2010, 11:36 PM

Been a tough go indeed.Life will always kick you in the nuts.stay strong

AzteK · 11-26-2010, 11:38 PM

umm psycho

Darkhorse · 11-27-2010, 12:47 AM

Not a good year at all, seems you have lot more then most to deal with wishing you the best...

quiet · 11-27-2010, 12:55 AM

sigh. not the right forum. hit up facebook or something for this sort of stuff.

quiet · 11-27-2010, 12:56 AM

gfy is a wasteland.

SallyRand · 11-27-2010, 01:08 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by garce

Forgive me if I have no sympathy for you. Forgive me if I come across as being rude at times.

I am done with bullshit. Why?

My mother-in-law died in April. She was sick. In 1995 she was given 6 months to live. Its been a nail-biter since then.

In May - right after my birthday - a good friend of mine hung himself. I found this out because another friend walked int his apartment and found him. Dead and hanging.

Later in May, my estranged niece was murdered n Bancroft. I hadn't seen her in years, but I have some great memories from when she was a kid.

My mother died in June. She did not leave a will, or have any insurance. I spent three years caring fr her, taking her to doctor's appointments, taking her to therapy, calling 911 on a regular basis. I'm left to deal with her mountain of debt, and left to care for my severely handicapped sister. What? I'm supposed to put my sister in a home? That's not going to happen. She'd die there.

I could live without the $183,000 debt, though. Thanks, mom! (I did try to get her finances in order. I couldn't force her - or get power of attorney).

My aunt just told me that my grabdfather's second wife finally succomed that's been eating away at her for years. Even though she wasn't my biological grandmother, she was good woman.

So, if you whine about something, forgive me for not giving a fuck.

Do whatever you have to do to take care of your family. You are a good; no, great person or you would not have put up this post. I feel for you in more ways than I can count. I choose to take care of several relatives; a sister, a brother and a nephew and they keep me near the edge some of the time but that is OK. Dad is now pretty much disabled and has turned over the farm to me, so I do the internet marketing thing while running a profitable organic farm.

You do what you have to do to take care of your own and I respect you for that.

Keep up the good fight and I do know that you really do care or you wold not have put up this post.

HIi me up any time!

BlackCrayon · 11-27-2010, 07:28 AM

well you rest assured that as shitty you might think you got it, many have it much worse. so chances are, they wouldn't give a fuck about your whining.

CurrentlySober · 11-27-2010, 07:35 AM

Ups and downs innit? Lets hope next year proves to be more acceptable.

CaptainHowdy · 11-27-2010, 07:36 AM

With all due respect, is that an excuse for what??

HomerSimpson · 11-27-2010, 11:37 AM

sucks to be you in 2010
but next year things might get better...

seeandsee · 11-27-2010, 11:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by garce

Forgive me if I have no sympathy for you. Forgive me if I come across as being rude at times.

I am done with bullshit. Why?

My mother-in-law died in April. She was sick. In 1995 she was given 6 months to live. Its been a nail-biter since then.

In May - right after my birthday - a good friend of mine hung himself. I found this out because another friend walked int his apartment and found him. Dead and hanging.

Later in May, my estranged niece was murdered n Bancroft. I hadn't seen her in years, but I have some great memories from when she was a kid.

My mother died in June. She did not leave a will, or have any insurance. I spent three years caring fr her, taking her to doctor's appointments, taking her to therapy, calling 911 on a regular basis. I'm left to deal with her mountain of debt, and left to care for my severely handicapped sister. What? I'm supposed to put my sister in a home? That's not going to happen. She'd die there.

I could live without the $183,000 debt, though. Thanks, mom! (I did try to get her finances in order. I couldn't force her - or get power of attorney).

My aunt just told me that my grabdfather's second wife finally succomed that's been eating away at her for years. Even though she wasn't my biological grandmother, she was good woman.

So, if you whine about something, forgive me for not giving a fuck.

i must say my problems are bigest to myself

Agent 488 · 11-27-2010, 11:49 AM

don't kill yourself.

moeloubani · 11-27-2010, 12:01 PM

In Toronto? You can always come to Guelph and smoke a j if you want to vent homie 45327152 on ICQ!!

Houdini · 11-27-2010, 12:21 PM

Sorry for your losses. One question, did your Mom leave you more than $180K in assets? Debt is not transferable to heirs unless the assets exceed the amount of debt, i.e. she left 100K and there's 180K in debt, you are not obligated to pay more than 100K. Credit card companies and the like attempt to trick you into thinking it's your problem, so they get paid, but that's not true. Don't assume your parents debt! In any case, hang in there.

garce · 11-27-2010, 11:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Elli

That's a mess of shit to deal with, if you don't mind me saying so. I'm very sorry for your losses. Focus on the good things, no matter how small they are. Even sappy stuff like kittens and flowers. It all helps in the long run.

I got a new puppy for my birthday in May. He's nine months old now and everytime I close my eyes I see his happy face. Half Jack Russel and half Dachshund (just recently found discovered th Dachsund DNA.... He's really short, but he's really long.

I have four dogs and two cats, btw. Once I move out of the city - and after my mother's "estate" is taken care of - I will invite more dogs into my life. They're all rescue animals, and I love them all with every inch of my heart.

I'm going to take a few of them out for a bonus walk now. I love them so much.

garce · 11-27-2010, 11:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Agent 488

don't kill yourself.

I didn't even think of this until you mentioned it.

CPA37710T · 11-27-2010, 11:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by garce

Forgive me if I have no sympathy for you. Forgive me if I come across as being rude at times.

I am done with bullshit. Why?

My mother-in-law died in April. She was sick. In 1995 she was given 6 months to live. Its been a nail-biter since then.

In May - right after my birthday - a good friend of mine hung himself. I found this out because another friend walked int his apartment and found him. Dead and hanging.

Later in May, my estranged niece was murdered n Bancroft. I hadn't seen her in years, but I have some great memories from when she was a kid.

My mother died in June. She did not leave a will, or have any insurance. I spent three years caring fr her, taking her to doctor's appointments, taking her to therapy, calling 911 on a regular basis. I'm left to deal with her mountain of debt, and left to care for my severely handicapped sister. What? I'm supposed to put my sister in a home? That's not going to happen. She'd die there.

I could live without the $183,000 debt, though. Thanks, mom! (I did try to get her finances in order. I couldn't force her - or get power of attorney).

My aunt just told me that my grabdfather's second wife finally succomed that's been eating away at her for years. Even though she wasn't my biological grandmother, she was good woman.

So, if you whine about something, forgive me for not giving a fuck.

Garce, i've got no idea how old you are.. but my family and friends dont exist in my book... im currently 26 and i think for now my best plan is to walk away from them and if something wrong happens to them then its their business... my parents task was to raise me, they did their part now i just walk away, there's nothing good on having people caring or caring about people, in the end we all notice that the people we estimate maybe arent estimating as us they way we do at them... i really dont know if you will understand this, but its just my point of view...

CPA37710T · 11-27-2010, 11:41 PM

i must add that my experience with my family isnt the most positive... its a freaking nightmare

garce · 11-27-2010, 11:49 PM

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Originally Posted by MisterPeabody

Garce - I know we go back-and-forth on my not updating my AP since April so let's put that aside for 3 seconds here:

I'm very close to my mother. I am very, very sorry for your loss in June (and for all the other losses and death that seems to surround you, for whatever reason, this year). My sister is also severely handicapped. As in: doesn't speak, wears diapers, needs assistance in everything. She's 50 years old. I am her Gaurdian. I would never, ever put her in a home once my mom is gone. So I feel for you.

Bash me any fucking time you want brother. Hang in there, it gets better, declare bankrupcy if it helps you get your mom's debt off your back. It gets better but don't fogret to give yourself permission to feel whatever fucked up things come up. It's all part of the process of cleansing grief.

Resume hating me now.

I'm yanking your chain, bro. Fellucia is the hottest woman I've seen since the glory days of Wifey, Queeny Love, Oral Amber and Dagny.

I'll back off - and I admit I was just being a dick in my replies to you. All also admit that my personal problems may have caused me to direct unwarranted anger in your direction.

The reply you made to my post speaks volumes. You are a professional - you had every right to ream me a new asshole because of my random drive by troll posts.

I think this response means more to me than anythng I've seen at GFY in the last nine years.

You are a good man. I was horribly wrong about you. I apologize.

Maybe I'm a pussy, but I'm in tears now - not out-of-control tears, but eyes-slightly-watering. The support I'm getting from this board is almost overwhelming.

Thank you all. And Mr. Peabody - please accept my apology. I never would have thought you would step in and support me. I fucked up

CPA37710T · 11-27-2010, 11:51 PM

long live Mr. Peabody

The Porn Nerd · 11-28-2010, 12:00 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by garce

I'm yanking your chain, bro. Fellucia is the hottest woman I've seen since the glory days of Wifey, Queeny Love, Oral Amber and Dagny.

I'll back off - and I admit I was just being a dick in my replies to you. All also admit that my personal problems may have caused me to direct unwarranted anger in your direction.

The reply you made to my post speaks volumes. You are a professional - you had every right to ream me a new asshole because of my random drive by troll posts.

I think this response means more to me than anythng I've seen at GFY in the last nine years.

You are a good man. I was horribly wrong about you. I apologize.

Maybe I'm a pussy, but I'm in tears now - not out-of-control tears, but eyes-slightly-watering. The support I'm getting from this board is almost overwhelming.

Thank you all. And Mr. Peabody - please accept my apology. I never would have thought you would step in and support me. I fucked up

Apology accepted but none needed. You did - OMG! - a human thing. Fuck man, that's what these boards are for. No names, but I've had people on GFY call me a dousche then ICQ me and now we're cool off-board. I take very little seriously, and even less what I read on a board. My hopes are that you hang in there and let time do it's thing. When my girlfriend left me three years ago that's what everybody told me: give it time. They were right but it sucked balls, and it's even worse for you.

But Nature abhors a vacuum so this means something positive or good or karma-repaying will happen in your life unexpectedly. That's how things work, and wish it weren't true but it's true for anyone dealing with shit.

Cheers mate.

garce · 11-28-2010, 12:03 AM

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Originally Posted by baddog

Here is hoping 2011 is better for you.

I hope so, too, Baddog. You are one of the people who have made my life tolerable over the last year. I know that sounds melodramatic, but I love your pictures, I love your stories, and I love reading about your adventures. I love seeing updates about Buddy - you won me over with that beautiful dog.

You're an anchor for me here. You ignore trolls and anonymous posters, and still you continue to share your life and adventures. I thank you for sharing your life me.

Being the verbose bastard I am, I could go on for pages - and I'm heading in that direction right now. Baddog, you have no idea how much your support means to me. So many good people at GFY - I put you near the top. Right behind Juicy.

Ok, I'm going to run a few laps on Need For Speed Hot Pursuit. I'm getting to weepy.

I'm such a pussy I may disappear for a few days.

garce · 11-28-2010, 12:07 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MisterPeabody

Apology accepted but none needed. You did - OMG! - a human thing. Fuck man, that's what these boards are for. No names, but I've had people on GFY call me a dousche then ICQ me and now we're cool off-board. I take very little seriously, and even less what I read on a board. My hopes are that you hang in there and let time do it's thing. When my girlfriend left me three years ago that's what everybody told me: give it time. They were right but it sucked balls, and it's even worse for you.

But Nature abhors a vacuum so this means something positive or good or karma-repaying will happen in your life unexpectedly. That's how things work, and wish it weren't true but it's true for anyone dealing with shit.

Cheers mate.

You should have been attacking me. I took out my emotional instability on you. I was wrong.

The apology was neccesary - I thak you for accepting it. Get Need For Speed Hot Pursuit for the PS3. I'll let you drive me off the road. Once.

Then its open season on Peabodies...

Sarah_Jayne · 11-28-2010, 12:15 AM

I am fairly sure you know this anyway but I have always liked you and enjoyed talking to you even from way back.

You know, I have been feeling pretty sorry for myself lately. I just went to my grandmother's funeral today. I have been over here in the States on death watch for the past month because she was suppose to be seconds away from death since then. In the end, she ended up dying on the 22nd...two days before the 6th anniversary of my first husband's death. Which, makes all sorts of triggery things for me.

Combine that with my current husband being a bit of a dick lately (but we are working through it) and that in any event I have been away from him for a month which makes it all worse.

So, thank you for your post. I am sure it was very hard to write but it has made me put things into perspective and sometimes I need that.

garce · 11-28-2010, 12:17 AM

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Originally Posted by CPA37710T

Garce, i've got no idea how old you are.. but my family and friends dont exist in my book... im currently 26 and i think for now my best plan is to walk away from them and if something wrong happens to them then its their business... my parents task was to raise me, they did their part now i just walk away, there's nothing good on having people caring or caring about people, in the end we all notice that the people we estimate maybe arent estimating as us they way we do at them... i really dont know if you will understand this, but its just my point of view...

I'm 47 years old. If I was to summarize my life here, I would be banned. I can't walk away, I have to take care of my sister. I moved back to mom's house to take of her in 1997. Three years I neglected my business and spent a good chunk of my time at Scarbourough hospital.

I sold my house to come home and take care of my mother. Then she died. Her "estate" is going to wipe me out. But I have to fight. My sister cannot go into a home. I will not let that happen - it would kill her.

I like a fight - and most lawyers are about as smart as a loaf of bread. This fight - although it will take time - is a fight I will win.

garce · 11-28-2010, 12:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Sarah_MaxCash

I am fairly sure you know this anyway but I have always liked you and enjoyed talking to you even from way back.

You know, I have been feeling pretty sorry for myself lately. I just went to my grandmother's funeral today. I have been over here in the States on death watch for the past month because she was suppose to be seconds away from death since then. In the end, she ended up dying on the 22nd...two days before the 6th anniversary of my first husband's death. Which, makes all sorts of triggery things for me.

Combine that with my current husband being a bit of a dick lately (but we are working through it) and that in any event I have been away from him for a month which makes it all worse.

So, thank you for your post. I am sure it was very hard to write but it has made me put things into perspective and sometimes I need that.

Sarah. I've loved you for a long time. I truly appreciate your support. Life is fucking hard when you have family.

Even though I started a miserable, depressing thread - I am stunned by te support I have received here.

I have to go now. This is a bit overwhelming. Go Fuck Yourself? No. I can no longer type - there are tears destroying my vision.

I can type for months. Wow. Thank you. The support I received from GFy is overwhelming. I have to go.

P.S. - Agent588 or whatever. If I decide to kill myself, I will hunt you down and take you out first. As long as I decide to live, your life is safe.

CPA37710T · 11-28-2010, 12:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by garce

I'm 47 years old. If I was to summarize my life here, I would be banned. I can't walk away, I have to take care of my sister. I moved back to mom's house to take of her in 1997. Three years I neglected my business and spent a good chunk of my time at Scarbourough hospital.

I sold my house to come home and take care of my mother. Then she died. Her "estate" is going to wipe me out. But I have to fight. My sister cannot go into a home. I will not let that happen - it would kill her.

I like a fight - and most lawyers are about as smart as a loaf of bread. This fight - although it will take time - is a fight I will win.

garce u look like someone i could work with, plz shoot me an email [email protected] i'd like to know more abt u

selena · 11-28-2010, 04:27 AM

For whatever it is worth, which admittedly is nothing, you are one of my favorite gfy posters.

I hope that 2011 is a much better year for you. ~hugs~

digitaldivas · 11-28-2010, 04:48 AM

Garce, get better buddy, vent anytime.

theking · 11-28-2010, 04:48 AM

Life can be a real bitch sometimes...grab your left nut and hang tight.

_Richard_ · 11-28-2010, 05:04 AM

stiff upper lip and all that

Dvae · 11-28-2010, 06:00 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by garce

Forgive me if I have no sympathy for you. Forgive me if I come across as being rude at times.

I am done with bullshit. Why?

My mother-in-law died in April. She was sick. In 1995 she was given 6 months to live. Its been a nail-biter since then.

In May - right after my birthday - a good friend of mine hung himself. I found this out because another friend walked int his apartment and found him. Dead and hanging.

Later in May, my estranged niece was murdered n Bancroft. I hadn't seen her in years, but I have some great memories from when she was a kid.

My mother died in June. She did not leave a will, or have any insurance. I spent three years caring fr her, taking her to doctor's appointments, taking her to therapy, calling 911 on a regular basis. I'm left to deal with her mountain of debt, and left to care for my severely handicapped sister. What? I'm supposed to put my sister in a home? That's not going to happen. She'd die there.

I could live without the $183,000 debt, though. Thanks, mom! (I did try to get her finances in order. I couldn't force her - or get power of attorney).

My aunt just told me that my grabdfather's second wife finally succomed that's been eating away at her for years. Even though she wasn't my biological grandmother, she was good woman.

So, if you whine about something, forgive me for not giving a fuck.

Sorry 'bout your damn luck!

Is the debt from the medical?
If it is then I don't understand, thought your country had National Healthcare.

Paul Markham · 11-28-2010, 06:33 AM

Sounds like you've had a mountain of problems. Wish you a better 2011.

Slutboat · 11-28-2010, 06:33 AM

Stop by my crib in LA and I'll get you blown.

BlackCrayon · 11-28-2010, 08:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Dvae

Sorry 'bout your damn luck!

Is the debt from the medical?
If it is then I don't understand, thought your country had National Healthcare.

old people are terrible with money. they often rack up credit card after credit card and then don't know what to do.

and i want to apologize for my previous post. i like garce, i like his posts. just going through some shit right now myself and while i can appreciate his situation and have sympathy for what hes going through i'm sure a lot of people here have similar stories too and you just might be taking it out on someone whos silently going through something even worse.

The Porn Nerd · 11-28-2010, 11:17 AM

"Open season on Peabodies" - I like that for some reason. Haha!

When my dad died my mother, who is blind, was left with my sister, who I already mentioned is severely handicapped. Me? I "escaped" the emotional pain (I was only 21 at the time he died) and split for NYC, where I drowned myself in sex, cocaine and rock and roll. Then, three years later, I came out of my fog just in time to discover...my mom had done a "reverse mortgage" thing and the bank was foreclosing on her house in about two weeks.

Springing into action - I was only 24 - I hired a Lawyer. My mom is blind, she signed papers without a Lawyer present, she was depressed over my Dad's death etc etc. Oh - and WHY did she get a huge reverse mortgage when my Dad had left her a house with only a $3,000 debt (it was worth $200,000 at the time)?

Medical debts. The Bastards were coming after my mom for my dad's $100,000+ past medical debts. She wasn't responsible for those debts but, under pressure, went and got this damned reverse mortgage to pay off the bills. Nice, huh?

So I sued the bastards, it took six years, and in the end we walked away from the house free-and-clear, and mom had managed to save enough over that time to move to a new and better house more suitable for her and my sister's special needs. But what a battle!

So the similarities Garce are vast (I'm 45) and while the details of course vary greatly maybe some of the emotional crap is the same. Hang in there.

PS: Dogs are God's Gift to us poor blokes down here, doggies can give you love in a way no other creature can. Woof!

nakeddutch · 11-28-2010, 11:33 AM

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Originally Posted by garce

Forgive me if I have no sympathy for you. Forgive me if I come across as being rude at times.

Folks that have passed on, you can visit their spirit via a dream.

Dream = "spirit" and as long as you are on Earth, just THOUGHT-TRAVEL or "Spirit Travel" to see / talk / to anyone on 'the other side'.

You need to "evoke a wish" That is: say outloud whom you'll like to see in spirit (in your dream that night)

Like so: Before bed you say OUTLOUD: "I WISH TO SEE [ NAME OF PERSON HERE]"
( this is called "Sleep Programming" where you say what you want to dream)

Then go to sleep, your spirit will see that person's spirit in a dream that night. Do this continously until your heart heals!

Celebrate the holidays and let next year be the silver lining on this cloud

baddog · 11-28-2010, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by garce

You're an anchor for me here. You ignore trolls and anonymous posters, and still you continue to share your life and adventures. I thank you for sharing your life me.

For your viewing pleasure.

I am glad there are some that appreciate the pics as much as I enjoy taking them.

11-26-2010, 08:39 PM	#1
garce Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Toronto Posts: 7,103	My Year So Far... Forgive me if I have no sympathy for you. Forgive me if I come across as being rude at times. I am done with bullshit. Why? My mother-in-law died in April. She was sick. In 1995 she was given 6 months to live. Its been a nail-biter since then. In May - right after my birthday - a good friend of mine hung himself. I found this out because another friend walked int his apartment and found him. Dead and hanging. Later in May, my estranged niece was murdered n Bancroft. I hadn't seen her in years, but I have some great memories from when she was a kid. My mother died in June. She did not leave a will, or have any insurance. I spent three years caring fr her, taking her to doctor's appointments, taking her to therapy, calling 911 on a regular basis. I'm left to deal with her mountain of debt, and left to care for my severely handicapped sister. What? I'm supposed to put my sister in a home? That's not going to happen. She'd die there. I could live without the $183,000 debt, though. Thanks, mom! (I did try to get her finances in order. I couldn't force her - or get power of attorney). My aunt just told me that my grabdfather's second wife finally succomed that's been eating away at her for years. Even though she wasn't my biological grandmother, she was good woman. So, if you whine about something, forgive me for not giving a fuck. Last edited by garce; 11-26-2010 at 08:40 PM..

11-26-2010, 11:28 PM	#8
Elli Reach for those stars! Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 17,991	That's a mess of shit to deal with, if you don't mind me saying so. I'm very sorry for your losses. Focus on the good things, no matter how small they are. Even sappy stuff like kittens and flowers. It all helps in the long run. __________________ Make More Money with Cams and Dating at FFN.com! email: [email protected]

11-26-2010, 11:36 PM	#9
Spunky I need a beer Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: ♠ Toiletville ♠ Posts: 133,928	Been a tough go indeed.Life will always kick you in the nuts.stay strong __________________ CONTACT FOR YOUR INFORMATION HERE

11-26-2010, 11:38 PM	#10
AzteK Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Northern Cali, USA Posts: 3,439	umm psycho __________________ WANTED: Buying Blog Posts and Links

11-27-2010, 07:28 AM	#15
BlackCrayon Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Ottawa Posts: 19,631	well you rest assured that as shitty you might think you got it, many have it much worse. so chances are, they wouldn't give a fuck about your whining. __________________ you don't know you're wearing a leash if you sit by the peg all day..

11-26-2010, 08:44 PM	#2
Si Such Fun! Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 13,900	Sounds like a terrible year for you Yet, You have still posted more useful threads/posts on this forum than about 85% of people here. Kudos to you

11-26-2010, 09:12 PM	#4
Intrinsic Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,589	Shit!!! Good luck 2 ya

11-26-2010, 10:04 PM	#7
baddog So Fucking Banned Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: the beach, SoCal Posts: 107,090	Here is hoping 2011 is better for you.

11-27-2010, 12:47 AM	#11
Darkhorse Horsing Around Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: AU Posts: 5,861	Not a good year at all, seems you have lot more then most to deal with wishing you the best...

11-27-2010, 12:55 AM	#12
quiet we'll miss you our friend. RIP Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Fernie, BC Posts: 25,115	sigh. not the right forum. hit up facebook or something for this sort of stuff.

11-27-2010, 12:56 AM	#13
quiet we'll miss you our friend. RIP Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Fernie, BC Posts: 25,115	gfy is a wasteland.

11-27-2010, 07:35 AM	#16
CurrentlySober Too lazy to wipe my ass Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: A Public Bathroom Posts: 38,519	Ups and downs innit? Lets hope next year proves to be more acceptable. __________________ My AI Handywork... My Dream Gal... XXX 👁️ 👍️ 💩

11-27-2010, 07:36 AM	#17
CaptainHowdy Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Happy in the dark. Posts: 93,044	With all due respect, is that an excuse for what?? __________________ FLASH SALE INSANITY! deal with a 100% Trusted Seller Buy Traffic Spots on a High-Quality Network 1 Year or Lifetime — That’s Right, Until the Internet Explodes!

11-27-2010, 11:37 AM	#18
HomerSimpson Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Springfield Posts: 13,826	sucks to be you in 2010 but next year things might get better... __________________ Make a bank with Chaturbate - the best selling webcam program Ads that can't be block with AdBlockers !!! /// Best paying popup program (Bitcoin payouts) !!! PHP, MySql, Smarty, CodeIgniter, Laravel, WordPress, NATS... fixing stuff, server migrations & optimizations... My ICQ: 27429884 \| Email:

11-27-2010, 11:49 AM	#20
Agent 488 Registered User Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 22,511	don't kill yourself.

11-27-2010, 12:01 PM	#21
moeloubani Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Ontario Posts: 4,235	In Toronto? You can always come to Guelph and smoke a j if you want to vent homie 45327152 on ICQ!!

11-27-2010, 12:21 PM	#22
Houdini Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: SoCal Posts: 1,651	Sorry for your losses. One question, did your Mom leave you more than $180K in assets? Debt is not transferable to heirs unless the assets exceed the amount of debt, i.e. she left 100K and there's 180K in debt, you are not obligated to pay more than 100K. Credit card companies and the like attempt to trick you into thinking it's your problem, so they get paid, but that's not true. Don't assume your parents debt! In any case, hang in there.

11-27-2010, 11:41 PM	#26
CPA37710T business ready hit me up! Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Nearby Posts: 1,115	i must add that my experience with my family isnt the most positive... its a freaking nightmare

11-27-2010, 11:51 PM	#28
CPA37710T business ready hit me up! Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Nearby Posts: 1,115	long live Mr. Peabody

11-28-2010, 12:15 AM	#32
Sarah_Jayne Now with more Jayne Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 40,077	I am fairly sure you know this anyway but I have always liked you and enjoyed talking to you even from way back. You know, I have been feeling pretty sorry for myself lately. I just went to my grandmother's funeral today. I have been over here in the States on death watch for the past month because she was suppose to be seconds away from death since then. In the end, she ended up dying on the 22nd...two days before the 6th anniversary of my first husband's death. Which, makes all sorts of triggery things for me. Combine that with my current husband being a bit of a dick lately (but we are working through it) and that in any event I have been away from him for a month which makes it all worse. So, thank you for your post. I am sure it was very hard to write but it has made me put things into perspective and sometimes I need that.

11-28-2010, 04:27 AM	#36
selena Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: On The Edge Posts: 7,992	For whatever it is worth, which admittedly is nothing, you are one of my favorite gfy posters. I hope that 2011 is a much better year for you. ~hugs~ __________________ ~ Doer of Things at MetArtMoney Where Flawless Beauty Meets Art ~The MetArt Network ~ selena.delgado9

11-28-2010, 04:48 AM	#37
digitaldivas ..I Heart Cannibal Corpse Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: California Posts: 4,327	Garce, get better buddy, vent anytime. __________________ ...

11-28-2010, 04:48 AM	#38
theking Nice Kitty Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: The good old USA!!! Posts: 21,053	Life can be a real bitch sometimes...grab your left nut and hang tight. __________________ When you're running down my country hoss...you're walking on the fighting side of me! FOR THE LYING LOWLIFE POSTING AS PATHFINDER...https://gfy.com/fucking-around-and-pr...athfinder.html

11-28-2010, 05:04 AM	#39
_Richard_ Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Vancouver Posts: 30,986	stiff upper lip and all that

11-28-2010, 06:33 AM	#41
Paul Markham Too old to care Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: On the sofa, watching TV or doing my jigsaws. Posts: 52,943	Sounds like you've had a mountain of problems. Wish you a better 2011. __________________ Blowout deal. 880 videos, 2,400 image sets, plus many RAW videos. $500. PM me for a deal. Skype Paulmarkham70

11-28-2010, 06:33 AM	#42
Slutboat Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 2,388	Stop by my crib in LA and I'll get you blown. __________________ The Slut Boat soon will be making another run The Slut Boat promises something for everyone

11-28-2010, 11:17 AM	#44
The Porn Nerd Living The Dream Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Inside a Monitor Posts: 19,507	"Open season on Peabodies" - I like that for some reason. Haha! When my dad died my mother, who is blind, was left with my sister, who I already mentioned is severely handicapped. Me? I "escaped" the emotional pain (I was only 21 at the time he died) and split for NYC, where I drowned myself in sex, cocaine and rock and roll. Then, three years later, I came out of my fog just in time to discover...my mom had done a "reverse mortgage" thing and the bank was foreclosing on her house in about two weeks. Springing into action - I was only 24 - I hired a Lawyer. My mom is blind, she signed papers without a Lawyer present, she was depressed over my Dad's death etc etc. Oh - and WHY did she get a huge reverse mortgage when my Dad had left her a house with only a $3,000 debt (it was worth $200,000 at the time)? Medical debts. The Bastards were coming after my mom for my dad's $100,000+ past medical debts. She wasn't responsible for those debts but, under pressure, went and got this damned reverse mortgage to pay off the bills. Nice, huh? So I sued the bastards, it took six years, and in the end we walked away from the house free-and-clear, and mom had managed to save enough over that time to move to a new and better house more suitable for her and my sister's special needs. But what a battle! So the similarities Garce are vast (I'm 45) and while the details of course vary greatly maybe some of the emotional crap is the same. Hang in there. PS: Dogs are God's Gift to us poor blokes down here, doggies can give you love in a way no other creature can. Woof! __________________ My Affiliate Programs: Porn Nerd Cash \| Porn Showcase \| Aggressive Gold Over 90 paysites to promote! Skype: peabodymedia Last edited by The Porn Nerd; 11-28-2010 at 11:19 AM..