PhPlist, constant contact, mail chimp, ynot mail
 

Which one should I use for a fetish newsletter? Can I get away with using mailchimp? What about Ynot mail? Constant contact I heard would shut me down. Is phplist easy to use?

YNOTmail.com is the solution you should use. You won't get shut down and you'll have all the tools you need at your disposal. Contact rochard at ynot dot com.