Serious Thread - I feel a bit depressed :(
 

So, to make a long story short I am finding it hard to be positive these days. I know bitching about it here is't going to change things. Neither is trolling but everyday is getting harder.

2015. My wife and I quit our jobs and started a new business. This business has never really made money and not even enough to pay our wages. I personally injected £10k into the business. The business is popular but it doesn't make money mainly due to high overheads.
2016. We got into serious debt problems. Managed to ignore the less serious and concentrate on the more problematic (mortgage etc). Thankfully government aid helped us out a lot.
2017. Still in business, still not paying ourselves a wage.
Just paid nearly £3k to an enforcement agent and they want another £1k off us for the next 3 months.
Wife remains overly positive. Refuses to give up. Continues on relentless. Works all hours.
Despite not agreeing feel like I can't disagree as it's her dream and something we have both worked on tirelessly for nearly 2 years.

Oh, and I used to make money on cams but some fucktard has hacked my main site and it's still hacked and I don't have time to fix it.

...debating whether to post a troll meme or post serious advice.

what type of business are we talking. adult related ?

No, not adult related. Mainstream. Retail.

I just feel a little bit repressed (won't tell much about it) ....

I feel better now, thanks.

Can you restore your site from a backup?

You're both tenacious and that's a good thing. You need a plan to effect the kind of positive change that will bring paychecks. Hang in there and just wake up and keep working at it every day. Let me know if you need hosting help-

Brad

Smack dat, if this situation you posted is real, and you are wanting to reach out to talk with someone about it, you are welcome to write directly: alex AT nalem DOT com

Whatever you decide to share off the board, will remain confidential.

Good luck!

Opening a small business 20 years ago was no problem. Since then taxes, rules and regulations only favor the super rich and big companies. (they don't want any competition) I couldn't believe the amount of stuff they've added just the last 10 years.

I wouldn't recommend anybody opening a business this day in age. (knowing the trickery that's out there)

Initially they want people to feel special, invest , and that you're going to make it big.

Then they throw people in debt....and then u feel stuck.

at-least your wife is keeping the positive attitude, which always helps with motivation for both. try to motivate her in return (if u aren't already) , this will keep both of you thinking strong and maybe able to turn things around.

I have file backups from 2013 / 2014 but I don't have recent SQL backups. The host certifiedhosting should be providing weekly backups but weekly I have been receiving email alerts that the backup failed.
No idea why but now it's too late.

This is why I love GFY. The situation is real Nalem and I appreciate your support.
I feel you have reached out to me before as well.

I may contact you but if I don't it's not because I don't appreciate your offer of help.

Good vibes sent your way. Stay Hopeful :)

Start working out. It will make your mind, will power and your body strong and you'll figure it out. It will also elevate your mood and chase away the blues.

By far the most underrated solution out there.

Good luck.

Hang in there.Jesus is just testing you

Im not encouraging you to contact me Smack dat, but talking it out with a stranger, often leads to a sense of relief and hopefully some enlightenment. If you dont get what your looking for from one person, you hit up the next one, and the next one after that.

Unfortunately some people either do not have supportive family and friends, or are just to ashamed to bring it up in the inner circle. Regardless what you might take away from it all, at some point your wife will need to be a part of those conversations.

I know it is hard to keep positive about stuff but of all the problems you can have in life, money is one of the easiest to solve.

It is important to go after the dreams but you do need to have income coming in while building the dream. So, I would suggest you force time to get the site hack taken care of either by doing it yourself or getting someone here to help you with it. That is at least income. Once that income stream is back in place you can go back to devoting the time to make your wife's dream business work.

Also, make sure to take time for yourself, your wife and your kids. Take a break every now and again. Try to work a set schedule so the important things do not get ignored.

And when the money issues get to you, think to yourself, it's just fucking money, just paper and ink.

Good luck.

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Hit me up and i'll fix your site, no cost.

And there you have it.

If you need hosting let me know I have plenty of spare space right now.

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go back to what made you $$$$ :2 cents:

If you have the code and the database structures then you can start with a clean database.

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@Smack keep your head up and keep pushing forward

this too shall pass. wish you good luck

Your sloppy grammar could be one cause of your business failures.

funny how so many are offering their own business to a person that's already down and in debt.

he's asking for advice, not for throwing more money away.

Not sure I quite agree with you there.

I didn't see Smack Daddy ask for any advice at all.

As far as offering to help with his hacked cam site, he said he hasn't had the time not that it was losing money. In fact he said he was making money in cams before the hack. Get the site back up and get an income stream or two going always helps. If he already has the server, domain and scripts then it makes sense to get them operational.

I don't think I have seen anyone offer advice other than to try to stay positive.

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The cold hard truth is a "real" business is hard and most fail. The ones that survive often end up with the owners working at slave wages and never really making it. There are thousands of people in the same situation as you.

Ie it's not like you are the only person this has ever happened to.

This is my opinion, if what you are doing isn't working, try something new. Is there something with your existing business you can branch into? I don't mean make it your focus, but something extra you could do to bring in extra money using your existing set up?

Can you get a side job to pull in some extra money to hold you over?

Last, with any business, that isn't a easy success, you have to be willing to look objectively at it. You need to be able to say ok this isn't working but it will work if we stay at it.. but you also need to be able to admit and say it's done if it's not working and it's going no where with no ability to advance. The worst thing you can do, is let a bad business take you under because you have miscalculated faith in it..

Sorry if my post isn't very motivational, but the biggest key to success IMO is being able to look objectify and knowing when to keep going or when to call it a day. Personally I'd look for ways to squeeze extra income out of whatever you are doing then see how it goes.

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Only the middle one about banging his sister is fake. That is his idea of trolling.

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talk with some business owners here on gfy or in your area.
see what are you doing wrong and get suggestions whether to keep the business running or going back to your old job.

you need a plan. don't just work hard, work smart , its 2017


one of you shouldn't have quit your job before you see profit from your business.

best wishes.

talk to someone , experienced and follow what they say. if you keep focusing on your business which is not making any money, it will be more difficult for you guys to survive in near future. just saying.

I thought the middle was real and the others fake no? You sure? :helpme

what i want to know is what happened to gfy? where's the post saying, "get a job!" lol

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if i had mainstream business problems, i wouldn't come here for advice. i'd spend all day reading and googling until i had a solution to try. i never stop working..

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What do you sell?

Glad to see some support. Good luck!

It's because in the past there was a lot of BS but also a lot of business on this board.. The business has disappeared due to the current times, so now there is just a lot of BS..

We are all in deep shit these days

we, Gary & I, know about problems with finance, especially after starting our own studio, a high street studio & losing 15k in 2015, now scraping through we have our own wages again...

skype us if you really want advice or ideas. We´re not BS, we´re here to make money & create business for us & others :thumbsup

Yep, sorry about that.

VladS thankyou for your offer to fix my site and Saratteh thankyou for your offer of hosting.
The hosting is paid up for a few more months yet but I still can't get my head around the hack issue. For some reason the email related to the domain is down to (since FEB).

yea i skimmed some thread where they're throwing novels back and forth. who's got the time for that shit? lol

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It's good and bad.

one of the few places left on the net where free speech is well tolerated.

but I haven't seen a post moderated in years it seems. :uhoh