Question For The Male Partner Of Swingers
 

I had a discussion about swinging today. Questions came up and I figured I’d ask here

#. How do you not get jealous when your female partner is having sex with other men?

#. Why can’t you satisfy your partner? Small cock or not enough stamina?

#. If you make money from this activity, do you consider it whoring out your partner?

#. If your partner seems to really, really like this guy and has incredible orgasms, do you try to replicate his motions?

#. One woman wonders about diseases and how you know someone is clean? Don’t you worry about both of y’all getting infected?

#. My question was boundaries. If you say no anal sex and he slips it in, how do you handle it?

I've been involved in a so called "open relationship", except I was the only one who knew it.

:1orglaugh

So it's more like a "half-open" relationship.

Joking aside, I've been with a girl who did threesomes with me a few times and she had no interest in fucking other guys. If she had wanted to, I may have had to think about it. But then I think about how rare it is to find a situation where you can fuck a girl and some of her friends. And one time it was a stranger. It would be an ok trade off to be OK with letting a guy fuck her.

Threesomes are great. I love to wrap my arms around two girls at the same time. That's the best feeling in the world to me.

We tried to engineer a foursome and it wasn't so easy. There was an exponential difficulty increase going from two girls to three. Eventually I paid three Montreal escorts for a foursome. Best $1500 bucks I ever spent.

I think you are looking at it in an unrealistic way. An UNDERSTANDABLE unrealistic way, but an unrealistic way nonetheless...

Yes, sure there are some couples that go out to swing clubs and both have a genuinely great time, both sucking and fucking other people and also enjoying watching their partners have sex with other people too... But these are in the minority...

The majority will be made up from the following groups. Some will have a sexual problem and be unable to satisfy their partner. Be it medical or whatever, it's quite plausible that the guy takes his wife along to a swing club, so she can be serviced / satisfied by other men as for whatever reason he cant do it himself, and by taking her, its his waying of looking after her. Sometimes in this situation, he is not particularly interested in having sex with someone else himself, and likewise it could well be a woman taking her husband. Giving him the chance to 'cheat' without actually 'cheating' (as she is present) Likewise she may not be interested in participating herself....

There will also be couples who are simply just tired of each other but don't split up due to kids / mortgages etc. Going to a swing club enables them both to have some excitement without the guilt of lying and hiding things that goes with having an affair. They will enjoy the sex with others, but won't necessarily be interested in what the other is doing or who they are doing it with...

You'll have the older couples who simply are never going to leave each other ever until they die, so they will just enjoy sex with whomever and whenever they can, and finally you have the 'Young Trendy Couples' who go to a swing club because they think its cool, or modern, or they are being edgy etc, but 9 times out of 10 it proves to be anything but that, and those are the ones you'll hear arguing and creating drama in the parking lot at the end of the night...

Its simply not just black and white - There are a HUGE number of different reasons why people walk into a swing club... It can be very complicated tbh...

As for disease, how do you know someone is clean if you are hooking up for an affair behind your partners back? Chances are, people at a couples only swing club will be clean and healthy, as they are part of a scene. Some random you meet at a bar? Not so much...

If you are really that interested, why not go to a swing club yourself one night and take a look? Single ladies always get in for free and you are not forced to participate. You can just watch and chat to people all night :)

You are just thinking in a old testament moral, monogamous fashion.

Your questions are kind of all over the place..!

I'm not into the scene but a few friends of mine are so I can tell you what I know.



Sex and Love are 2 different things to a lot of people, myself included. Those who enjoy watching their wives have sex, enjoy it and are turned-on by it. Think of it like a niche. It also has the added benefit of having sex with other people, without cheating. Jealousy never comes up.


This has nothing to do with it. In fact my friend tells me that the best orgasms he and his wife have occur while he fucks her after someone else does. It's all about fantasy and turn-ons and nothing at all about feelings of inadequacy.

Wouldn't anyone want to try something new?

Who fucks strangers these days without using a condom?

If my spouse and I were going to share each other with another couple, boundaries between all 4 people would have to be discussed and agreed to. It's just basic trust. If you break the agreement, the fun ends and that party's over.

Hold up hold up... i'm trying to understand... are you saying that she was banging other guys after she forgot to tell you that it was over?

no he mean shes cheating on his back :1orglaugh

No I meant that I was cheating.

OP is clueless about swingers.

I was a swinger and too busy fucking the wife to worry about all the crap the OP points to. It's about couples not just your wife having fun.

My present wife and I have had many a threesome with girls, she enjoys seeing me have fun. Then having fun herself, she never felt excluded, jealous or let down. I would have loved to had threesomes with other men, I would enjoy just watching her have fun but not bi-sexual at all.

Love and sex are two very different things.

That's why she's asking questions.

You say you were a swinger.

You didn't answer one of her questions not even one.

Swingers have an interesting internal moral landscape. :)

I asked one question. Everyone overlooked the part where I said it was others who asked the questions but I added one

I couldn’t answer correctly when asked so asked here. I got partial answers and one complete response

I can’t go back and give stupid comments instead of answers. There isn’t a site devoted to these questions.

I’m not that interested. It was a discussion about it with questions asked

In my current state , I’d be unable to go. I’m not going to list the reasons why here. I know of clubs in Providence but this area is too conservative.

Great responses btw

**ding ding **. Poster is clueless.

I posted a single question. If I knew the answers, I’d not have asked.

I wanted personal opinions, not gloating about imaginary encounters.

Just the idea of Paul having threesome sex with some poor clueless desperate girl is fucking creepy as fuck.

They obviously disagreed.

You're perception comes from someone who didn't know and didn't think it through. You assumed it was very much one way with one partner worried about the other having too much or better sex.

Swinging is two way with both partners enjoying themselves or it won't work. This can be at a party with multiple partners or in a three way and most certainly two couples.

And again, I asked one question. The rest were from a CNA after a discussion about infidelity.

I assumed nothing. You assumed I asked all questions when previously I explained that I only asked one.

Your last statement is obvious. If both don’t enjoy themselves, one is left feeling unfulfilled.

I do know what swinging is and have spoken with swingers about this lifestyle. I couldn’t answer the questions because I don’t get into swinging. My opinions are quite different from others.

You asked many questions so please edit your response.

The man is having sex with the female partner of the other men so too busy to get jealous.

I can and can satisfy the female I was fucking otherwise no one would pair off with us.

That's different from swinging if only the woman is getting sex.

Who wouldn't?

Who fucks strangers without a condom these days?

You tell him to stop, as a woman you will know how hard it is to "slip it in" to the ass without some massaging.

But then I never did think you were a woman, just a man pretending to be a woman.

Well, I really interested if threesome could be the kind of swing?

Youll need to make yourself much more clear in order to organize a threesome . . .

Considering that you saw me doing a television interview on Channel 4 in London and made nasty remarks, I’d say that your memory is fragile.

You’re like a child in that a comment was made against you so you change the subject and make a stupid imaginary thought to divert the subject.

Just like years ago, when folks here make a comment about you, only the women are answered. You run like an old coward when men berate you or attacked you. It’s your MO to cower and hide from male Internet bullies.

You’re chicken shit, Paul, and fifteen plus years of posting proves that.

If my business number were active, I’d invite you to call me and that’s anyone here. Funny how my number was on my sites for years yet no one ever said I was male. Want references? I can think of a few from here that I spoke with.

https://i.ytimg.com/vi/v6DFme4Wvtg/maxresdefault.jpg

Never saw the CH4 program, refresh my memory to which one it was.

OK I will edit my assumption. You look at things from a man's point of view. All your queries here were about how much the swinging effects the male of the relationship without thinking he's as busy fucking a women as she is fucking a man. As a woman you would know that it's impossible to "slip it in" to the ass. Two of my 3 wives loved anal sex, couldn't slip it in without coursing them pain, you would know that as a woman. You would also know penis size matters little to a woman, her nerve endings are around the entrance to the vagina. Also you would know about your vagina.

https://www.google.com/search?ei=NGH...iz.cS-P48p7gQU

I'm slightly bigger than that and can't get it all the way in without hurting the lady.