Are You Buying Affection?
 

For my second post i would like to offer you some practical advice on managing your affections.

This is taken from my website http://www.drphil.com and i hope you take heed of the information contained within.

Just for the record, 'buying affection' does not refer to that practise of 'buying a hooker' which, we all know comes under the heading - Juicylinks has sex for the first time.

Do you use money to buy affection and approval from your friends or family?

Do you know what the real issue is? Get real about why you're doing what you're doing, and deal with that issue.

What is your persistent buying teaching your kids? Don't underestimate children; they learn from your persistent buying. A real contribution would be to balance your life so you can be there for them. Don't try to justify neglect by "buying" their love.

Your buying habits may be a result of the guilt you feel for not having enough time to spend with your children. Buying is a false substitute and an illusion.

Life is about compromise. You must figure out a way to maximize your time with your family. By spending your money to buy affection, you may be putting their future in jeopardy and making the problem worse.

Get honest with yourself. Ask yourself, "How insulting is this to me that I have to buy my way into a relationship?" Step up and say, "If they like me, they like me." You'd rather be healthy alone than sick with someone else. And if you have to buy friends, they're not much of a friend.

Deal with this issue emotionally. Quit hiding behind gifts. This will force you to deal with your REAL problem.

Thank you.

Dr Phil.

is that really dr.phil?

if yes then wtf you doing here?

btw you made me laugh on that mcdonald case show on TV :1orglaugh

"WHAT A LOAD OF BULLSHIT!"

Dr. Phil perscribed himself a few bottles of pain killers :)

I bought a dr. phil book once.

Bradley,

Thank you for that wonderous piece of information :)

Congratulations on your marriage by the way, however, i can't help but wonder why you never sent me an invite? I would have thought after all the support i gave to Kimmy after your 'split' a bit of recompense for my time would have been an invite to the wonderous occasion.

Dr Phil.