breakup time .. advice needed
 

This was a long time coming...

Tommorow im going to do it...

I am going to break up with my long time girlfriend.


Any suggestions how I do this... without calling her again in 3 - 4 days...


and not being so miserable after the breakup?

all i can say is good luck man...

If it was serious, there really isnt an easy way.
In my experience, its best to just cut contact completely for a while. After a few months if you wanna be friends, then go ahead.
Just tell her exactly how you feel. Honestly hurts sometimes, but in the long run she'll appreciate it more then making something up.

"its not you, its me"

(i just watched sienfeld)

50 Ways To Leave Your Lover

The problem is all inside your head
She said to me
The answer is easy if you
Take it logically
I?d like to help you in your struggle
To be free
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover

She said it?s really not my habit
To intrude
Furthermore, I hope my meaning
Won?t be lost or misconstrued
But I?ll repeat myself
At the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover

CHORUS:
You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don?t need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don?t need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free

She said it grieves me so
To see you in such pain
I wish there was something I could do
To make you smile again
I said I appreciate that
And would you please explain
About the fifty ways

She said why don?t we both
Just sleep on it tonight
And I believe in the morning
You?ll begin to see the light
And then she kissed me
And I realized she probably was right
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover

CHORUS

There's no easy way to break somebody's heart!

i just stopped talking to mine...i felt bad though for a long time...then we had sex today!

and we're still not going out..so things will work out


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Breaking up is always hard, specially if it is a long time relationship. Best of luck man.

if you don't mind me asking why was it a long time coming and why do you want to break up with her?



and more importantly when it's all done and finished can you create a "would you hit it" thread with a pic of her?

It won't be easy esp. if you've been together for a long time!

be brave....face your fears!

The first thing is Good Luck!...

There is no easy way to breakup with your long time gf...

Samuel:(

Just do it clean and quick. There's no transition period with break-ups.

Is there no other solution to your problems?

The best and easier way for bouth is just to say her u don't want to be with her anymore,do it no mether how hard it looks it is:2 cents:

tell her you are gay

obviously you still have feeling for her if your that sketched about calling her a few days later and getting back with her if you really care about her that much that you can't be without her best way to stop talking to her is tell her wat your deal is and then just debt her don't call her don't answer her calls seperate yourself for a while give yoruself a week or two without her and you won't want to be around her anymore

I guess it could work, lol

ask if you can pee on her!

since you're not so sure of yourself, why bother? no use breaking up and running after her after 4 days.

Tell her that you are already seeing someone else, unless she has friends you want to get with. Then go another route

:1orglaugh

even though we've known each other for this long :glugglug

think of it this way... when women leave, do they sit around wondering if u'll be ok? ... no they're off fuckin someone else already :1orglaugh

with that in mind... just go in and lay down the axe.. :) ... it could be worst .. u could've been on the other end of the stick.

I have to say that there is no easy way man, you have to either tell her straight up, or just don't do it. Make sure that you tell her why, because she would be miserable wondering "why", and what she did wrong. Try not to be friends immediately, it will be really uncomfortable for both of you. Hang out with your friends a bit more, get used to being single again and it wouldn't hurt as bad on your side, or make you go running back to her from out of misery. I just got out of a year and 5 months relationship. These are the things that i did, and it worked out great for me, we both moved on with no problem.

Good luck man.

-Greg:thumbsup

:1orglaugh

tell her yer really gay