Dating single mothers... bad idea or not?
 

Anyone got any thoughts on this one?

Depends... do you want to take care of other people's kids?

Too general a question to answer either way. Depends on each individual circumstance.

Only if you want to be #2.

Not a bad idea but definitely not something I would do.

Not particularly. I'm 23, so I kinda consider it too early to even think about kids yet.

Explain?

just make sure not to stick around long.

If you are only 23 I wouldn't waste any time at all with a single mother unless she is way out of your league otherwise. :)

Hell I am nearing 30 now and I still wouldn't seriously date a single mom. Life is too short, might as well enjoy it while you can.

You need to listen to some Tom Leykis :thumbsup

i wouldn't hold the fact that a girl has a child against her. you could be missing out on someone real great. of course if you don't want the responsibility or 'hassle' of having a kid around, might not be the best idea. the older you get, the harder it is to find women without kids.

Sure if she is stable with a good job. Wouldn't want to have to support someone.

I love to nail the "mother" in all possible ways. I also make friends with the kids. I eventually just stop returning her calls. The kids cry for a while, but they are use to pain from the loss of their actual father. Losing a guy who simply "used" their mother is hardly as painful.

I wait until I am tired of her or until she asks about "the relationship." I let the kids keep most of the gifts I might have given them.

Its a too general question, but if she is a nice girl, stick around, but not too long

It really depends.

I probably would date a girl that had a kid ONLY if the father had absolutely no contact with them. If he hauled ass and I was able to eventually adopt the child then yes, I would go for it and raise the child as my own.

However, if the father still has contact then I wouldn't touch it with a 10' pole! The reason being is because it will be hard to raise the kid with another influence (which is probably influencing the child to think you're an asshole). It could and will present tons of problems. The kid will always have daddy to get his back and you would be SERIOUSLY limited to how you discipline the child.

Fucking a single mother on the other hand.... :winkwink:

NOOOOOOOOO, bad idea!!!! DO NOT LISTEN TO THOSE WHO TELL YOU OTHERWIZE!!

Agree you will always be #2 in her eyes, the rug rat comes first..

good answer

for whatever my pearls of wisdom are worth - consider this...

sure, date the woman but keep the kids out of it. in other words, be supportive, but decline the opportunity to meet them and get to know them until you are certain you want to really date exclusivley or whatever.

make sure you care enough about the girl before you take on the extra baggage (which isnt necessarily a BAD thing depending on the situation)

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Well...aren't you the most thoughtful Romeo on the block. Do you also take the puppy when you split?

If she's hot then why not. It's just dating anyway..

dating...not a big problem. if the relationship becomes too serious, THEN we have a problem

Kids are awesome so why not.

Single moms are ok...only if she has 1 kid! Two or more is big NO NO!

Some dating here and there wouldnt hurt! :thumbsup

At least you know from day 1 that they put out.

if you are going to date a single mother, I have one piece of advice - ALWAYS US A CONDOM!

If you knock her up, she will not abort it.

yeah, and they have no qualms about locking you into an 18 year relationship.

that is something that depends on you, the woman, and the kid.

Instead of just two people having to get along, now 3 people do.

its funny how things work in reverse.. ever since i became a single father, all the ladies want me because its just so cute.. however, no guys want anything to do with my baby's mamma

Milf's are the BOMB!

single moms are easy targets for one night stands, but they are out for "The (m)ONE(y)" - the new daddy, so keep the dates as sexual as possible and avoid meeting the kid.

I have been seeing one for about 4 months now.

I told my mom the other day, if it works out...cool.

If it doesn't, I will NEVER date another single mom again.

When a single mom goes out on a date with somebody new
It always winds up feeling more like a job interview
My momma used to wonder if she'd ever meet someone
Who wouldn't find out about me and then turn around and run

I met the man I call my dad when I was five years old
He took my mom out to a movie and for once I got to go
A few months later I remember lying there in bed
I overheard him pop the question and prayed that she'd say yes

And then all of a sudden
Oh, it seemed so strange to me
How we went from something's missing
To a family
Lookin' back all I can say
About all the things he did for me
Is I hope I'm at least half the dad
That he didn't have to be

I met the girl that's now my wife about three years ago
We had the perfect marriage but we wanted somethin' more
Now here I stand surrounded by our family and friends
Crowded 'round the nursery window as they bring the baby in

And now all of a sudden
It seemed so strange to me
How we've gone from something's missing
To a family
Lookin' through the glass I think about the man
That's standin' next to me
And I hope I'm at least half the dad
That he didn't have to be

Lookin' back all I can say
About all the things he did for me
Is I hope I'm at least half the dad
That he didn't have to be

Yeah, I hope I'm at least half the dad
That he didn't have to be
Because he didn't have to be
You know he didn't have to be

depends on many things yes

age, situation, what your intentions are.. quick fuck or a serious relation etc etc

was the child your college buddy?

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