I'm having a hard time performing in bed...
 

its been happening lately...

I can get it up just fine, but for some reason it just dies out on me after a while, and then I have a very hard time getting it up again.

what does that mean? if I am easily able to get it up at first but then have a hard time controlling it?

and it doesnt ALWAYS happen, alot of times I can go on for a while...

it's embarrassing when I am forced to stop fucking and start eating her out instead hoping of getting it up again!

what do you guys think is wrong with me? seriously

oh, and I'm 20 years old, no smoking, no drugs, rarely alcohol

stress? too much pressure to perform?

Maybe watching porn during sex might help

I was going to say smoking until i got to the end of your post... :Oh crap!! You should change your gf and see how that goes (typical GFY reply).

try boys?

it's 4 different girls yo

and with each, I have had days where we would fuck for literally an hour till she can't take it anymore

and I've had days like today where I left embarrased!

You're trying out women again? That's the problem. If there is no ballsack attached your heart isn't into it:)

lately yeah... after the first time it happened I didnt think much of it, after the 2nd time (with the same girl as the 1st time), it REALLY hit me hard

now every time I am sleeping with a girl all I can think of is: "Don't let it happen again"

I'm so tempted to make a BradM joke, but I won't. I actually typed one out, then deleted it.


You're not taking any kind of steroids, are you?

Big problem. Now you are fucked. You will always be scared not to perform. Your sex life is over.

Go buy some viagra. ;)

never had a problem myself, but i'm guessing thinking that doesnt help cause you're putting too much pressure on yourself

go to the doctor even though you are young you can have a blockage that can lead to a heart attack and heart attacks before 40 yrs old are almost always fatal.

so how do I not put any pressure on myself?

and the thing is, when its not sex, when its only handjob, blowjob, etc... it stays up the entire night!

Is it just the tiniest bit possible that you're gay? I'm not trying to be a wiseass, but a lot of homosexual friends and acquaintances I've had describe similar experiences with women.

SpaceAce

it could be because because your not exertising yourself during those acts,go to the doctor

I really don't think so yo, I don't fantasize about men or think about it or anything

I LOVE women, seriously

You cant perform? LOL :1orglaugh :1orglaugh

I got a boner just looking at this thread, i cant get it down. :1orglaugh

Maybe the girls you're sleeping with are lame, that's been my problem lately :(

How manny pair of shoes do you have Bdjuf?

it you are on blood preasure meds they can do it to you.

Maby you should stop thinkin about it.. that helps alot..

and if that doesn't work.. you can always buy some viagra/kamagra of the internet.. I suggest you google on "kamagra" it's the same thing as viagra, although alot cheaper!

the stress of being metrosexual

Maybe try going with girls instead of trannies and see if that makes a difference?

It's probably just mental, But i'd see a doc just to make sure:)

r u taking anti-depressants?

you could have prostatitis or EDO(ejaculatory Duct Obstruction) which is basiclly a cyst in the duct and can cause this. Both of these problems are happening more and more to guys that r in their 20s now...i would go see a urologist.

do you have other symptoms? urgency, frequency, leakage????

you should also stop having caffeine and spicy foods.

Call Dr. Drew!

If I had to hazzard a guess I'd say stress. Props for having the balls to admit somthing that could hit any one of us. I'd say try Cialis a V, (generice is same and cheaper) that way your under no pressure and can get back to just enjoying yourself. Then you can try iot later without. My two cents.

maybe girls arent your cup of tea....

Stress? :(

20 years old and your join date is 2003.

i hope this figures illegal biatch:1orglaugh

Take Vitamins + Cardio Exercise

Go see a doc..you might need a prostate exam

sad to hear that b...

Take some viagra and drink a few beers then go find you a heffer

I think since the first time this happened you have now become so fearfull that it will happen again that you are making it happen subconsciously.

You might want to get a check up from your doctor just for the hell of it, this should not be happening to you at your age and it's a good time to get a physical exam to make sure everything is ok.

Not to try and scare you but testicular cancer strikes men between the age's of 15-35 mostly but is very treatable when caught earily. When it comes down to your favorite body part you need to figure it out as fast as possible!

Good luck!

rut rhoah!...
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its just psychological... try not to think about it and just relax... take a break... :)

don't jerk off so often :1orglaugh

It's called performance anxiety and it's very common these days.

Personally i've had it happen not long ago, 2 times the 2 times i was with a girl. Seems I would put too much pressure on myself instead of enjoying the moment. Then this girl I'm totally in love with came into my life and I had it only once since (first days) and we've been fucking like bunnies for the past month.

performance anxiety! i suppose it all depends on what you're looking to achieve. busting a quick nut, no prob... but when the goal is to make sure she likes it is where the problem can creep in

could also be poor blood flow, condoms (the lube makes me sort of numb), low testosterone levels or something else along those lines

haha woah

Not as silly as you might think lol - I read something about this on Mens health - guy with the same problem.

It wasn't like he was jerking off tons or anything but he had got used to his own touch.

Anyway, the girl couldn't replicate it 100% by hand and it got even worse when he was having sex with her, stayed for a while then got limp - she just didnt feel as good.

So the advice was to "don't touch your cock at all for a week and you'll be fine"

Could be worth a try.

get some viagra or cialis. once the pressure is off you will be fine. I had an icnident where the same thing happened. Too much booze. i was freaked for months after. Got over it once I forgot aobut it.

Stress?

Go have you testostrone levels checked at the DR, they might be a little low, and then get on some Celais...

hahaahahahahahahah

could it be you're gay?

bdjuf what about that girl that was with you when we went to the casino?

she was fucking hot :thumbsup

You should go see a Doc dude ;) It's free here so why not take advantage ;0