| carol.prime |
09-02-2006 10:18 AM |
Homosexual men. These are the ones, who are openly leading a gay life. They are not afraid to show on Mardi Gras parades, go out in gay pubs, clubs or other places and normally are open about their sexuality to their parents and friends. Their masculine energy level is usually 2-3 times lower then the feminine and for this reason they are attracted exclusively to other men only. Their percentage in society is usually low ? about 5%, although some sources insist that they are up to 10%. Society in general makes the huge mistake to associate homosexuality with this small group of people only, without accounting for the massive third group.
Bisexual men. These are the men, filling in the grey area, with a masculine level varying between 40 to 60%. Their percentage to the total population is not less then 30%. In other words we are talking about every third man here. Bear in mind also that ?bisexual? is a very broad term, ranging from very occasional encounters to almost exclusive encounters with the same sex partners. The behavioural pattern that these men follow, varies and it is directly determined by the level of ?openness? of the society in general. If the society is prohibitive about gay relationships, then bisexual men tend to get married and suppress the impulses that come from within them. A superficial glance on the surface of such societies normally shows that the total percentage of gay people is 5% or less, because due to the fear of harassment and maltreatment, gay encounters become extremely covert. If, however, the society is tolerant and open about it (as the western society increasingly becomes), then they may vacillate in their choices or may even declare themselves as ?gay? while in fact, strictly speaking, they are not.
At the same time, however, nearly everybody is reluctant to admit it. Several of curious ones might have consulted hundreds of men and every time when this topic comes up, they shut up like a clamp. If I insist to bring the issue, though, more often than not they admit that they had had at least one sexual encounter with another man (and sometimes more than one), but they hate to think about themselves as being any except being straight, because they do not feel this way. When I tell them that most other men are in their position, at first they feel surprised, but then they feel relieved. It is certain that what happened to one of us, for sure happened to many others as well.
In conclusion I would like to say that being a real man in today?s society became a really tough call. Masculinity is under fire by a variety of factors. Naturally, there are many more. Masculinity is not something that always was there and always will be there by default. It is something that has to be nurtured and cultivated. As one needs to put a lot of effort to produce bread and put it on the table, so similarly one needs to put a lot of effort to evolve into a real man.
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