Fathers, I don't like having sex with my wife after witnessing birth of our son
 

This was about 4 months ago and I don't know what to do. She's been really great about getting back in shape and is even starting to get a little aggressive in initiating sexual contact. Before she got pregnant, we were like rabbits - all the time, anywhere, every position. Then, when she got pregnant, I started seeing her in a bit of a different way.

Finally, when she gave birth, I saw way too much. Our son's head ripped her vagina open. She lost control of her bowels. The resulting mix of blood, shit, and amniotic fluid produced a sight and smell in the delivery room I never EVER want to experience again.

Any other GFYer dads experience this? I should have stayed in the waiting room but she insisted that I ":mad: be there for the birth of our child. :mad:"

I'm really at a loss here. The result is that I find her unattractive, even sexually repulsive now. She might think I'm having an affair, but I'm not. Yet. :Oh crap

Cowboy up bitch!

i have to say, even reading that shocked me.. so i wont be witnessing any child births if i ever have kids thats for sure..

talk to your doctor about this. im sure that you're not alone here.

please dont resort to the affair. it sounds as if you've already had something lined up, but didn't have the balls to actually do it.

cheating on your wife just because you are having a problem now could not only have an affect on you, but the connection between you and your child. I'm sure that your child is gonna turn into a fuckup if you tell them that you found their birth (and essentially them) repulsive

Chicken...

If it makes you feel better, woman are usually tighter after childbirth than they were before, because of the curtesy stitches from the doctor. The fact that you're repulsed by a natural thing that happens during childbirth is normal for a guy, but just imagine how you would feel if that were you and you couldn't control your body infront of a bunch of strangers ? Give her some props.

yeah you may want to talk with a doctor about your issues.

I'm disgusted by the childbirth. I think it should be like the old days when men stayed in the waiting room and passed out cigars later. Men shouldn't have to see his wife and kid until she is scrubbed, cleaned and sutured up and put back together again. No wonder so many men cheat after the kids arrive. It's fucking gross. :mad:

Now because of that nightmarish experience, I can't seem to get rid of this image of my newborn son's head ripping her insides out. :disgust

she had sex with you, went through a pain you will never IMAGINE, and now you wont make love to her?

grow up. :321GFY

Im glad I'm not a father yet and dont have to deal with this issue. But I can understand you. Good luck in solving the problem!

Making love to her, going down on her feels like I'm french kissing my newborn baby on the mouth. Blech!

I now advocate wholeheartedly women having C-Sections instead of natural child birth. It's cleaner. Safer. And the plumbing stays intact.

start fucker her ass, you'll think different, no baby ripped out of that... maybe a huge duker, but nothing else

yuck i just lost my appetite.

give my sympathies to your wife.

then again, she picked you.

Yeah I hear you man. Women don't realize the emotional impact on "Dad" having to have to bear witness to his wife being permanently physically goatse'd for life for christ sakes. :mad:

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so she shat a turd out along with the baby?

:1orglaugh Omg, I almost pissed myself.

Seriously, see a shrink. You need to put this in perspective, since you're obviously the one with a problem... and how do you know it won't affect you with all women?

I stayed up by my wife's head during the birth (holding her hand, stroking her hair, keeping eye contact, reminding her to breathe, that kind of thing) so I didn't see the actual head pop out or any of the related fun stuff.

That's just weird. I think you might have general issues not strictly related to the recent birth.

TTIUWP

thats funny i have no problems fucking your wife at all..

just kidding . im a father and i never had that problem.. it grossed me out the first time for a few weeks ( flashbacks lol ) but that didnt last long

How do you think the mother of your child would feel in that situation? It was YOUR SEED that impregnated her, grew inside her, and caused her pain and tearing. If that were me, I would be terrified about the pain I was going to have and I would only hope that the person who put me in that position would be there to hold my hand and help me through it. If you honestly didn't want to whitness it, you should've discussed it with her beforehand and not resent her afterward. Sure it's gross, but it's just a gross for her, having the embarrassment of having it come out of her when her water breaks, while strangers are watching it happen to her, and the month of heavy pms afterwards.

You should suck it up and make her feel special for even giving you something as special as your child.

its clear that you truly love your wife

You have to remember that childbirth is a natural thing. I saw my baby boy come out and watch the doc as he removed the placenta afterward. Sure I was grossed out at the time but you move past it and you should have huge respect for what your wife went through. it's not like she really had a choice about those things happening to her body at the time.

Sounds to me like you have some issues with bodily functions etc

:1orglaugh

I'll never forget the smell, just thinking of it makes me want to puke.

10 seconds before my wife gave birth (all on video of course) the doctor sliced her vagina open from the botton to the top of her ass hole,, then everything spilled out. Fucking gross. Even after 5 years she sill watches the video on a regular basis.

as long as your wife mouth still works you should be fine. and be happy with that cause your not the baby anymore.

I have to agree with Ayla on this one. You think you have it bad? Try to imagine what your wife had to go through! They compare it to a man trying to squeeze a lemon out of his peehole. Childbirth is a natural and beautiful thing. To watch a brand new life enter into this world is really a miracle, and if you hadn't been there for it, you'd probably regret it.

More likely than not, your wife is already suffering from the self-esteem issues that almost every woman goes through after childbirth, and your attitude won't help a damn thing.

I caught my second baby under water in a birth tub while I was in there with my wife. Swam in all kinds of bodily fluids, cut the cord, got out and then showered.

I love my wife's vagina, and get with it whenever possible.

It didn't gross me out at all.. I couldn't wait to get back in there. :1orglaugh

One of the most important lessons in life:

Shit washes off.

i love your wifes vagina too :thumbsup :1orglaugh

I don't get this thing about men witnessing childbirth. Stop imitating what you see on TV shows.

I bet you're not the only one with this issue. Try looking up some local "new dads" help groups and bring it up with them.

In the meantime, you're hurting your wife's feelings. She worked so hard to get back in shape for you to find her attractive again... I would sleep with one eye open for the next while.

have you never had a kidney stone? i've had two suposably they are worse than giving birth :-/

Beer will sort ya...plenty bottles beer and a viagra :thumbsup

Seeing a wife giving birth really sucks but what had happened was normal because I saw women giving birth and it's not a big deal for me if they gave off something eww. You will get used to it bro!

I watched a movie instead of witnessing childbirth.

How did it smell again? :upsidedow

Why don't you try talking to your wife about this?Every problem of couples need to be talk about...finding solution is much better than keeping it to your self!!!

Fucking fag...

Thanks for the warning! :warning

No way in hell I'm catching a birdseye view of this shit.

Whenever I have a child, im not watching it pop out - i'll take the side view thank you very much

Don't talk about his newborn son like that

You should have stayed outside or at least, turned your back while she's on labor.

it will only get worse bro.....she is only going to get older and 20 year old girls are only going to get hotter......it's a losing situation.

I'm not one to talk. My old lady and i decided a while back we're just too selfish and egocentric to have kids. I just don't understand why some are giving this guy a hard time. He's being honest. He obviously wants to figure out how to reignite the passion and feels terrible about the situation. Why try to make him feel worse?

What happens when the 20 year olds get older? Who do we turn to then? lol
Maturity is attractive :2 cents: However, some people enjoy hanging out with children :upsidedow

What are you 18. Fucking grow up. You think she likes to look at your hairy balls and 4 inch cock?

I bet you're one of those guys who would have an affair 3 months after she gave birth, and then blame it on "I wasn't getting any at home."

Google "male"or "man" and then become one.

How can he try and help the situation without the help of his wife? Thats usually how relationships work. You have a problem, lets talk about it and try to work through it..together.

TOGETHER.

And this guy just seems to be a real dick, the way he talks about the birth of his child is wrong and insulting. Yes, child birth can be very messy, but most people can look past that and enjoy the rest of their lives :2 cents:

I'll keep that in mind if I'm ever in that situation, I'm saying in the waiting room!

Then you shouldn't have knocked her up in the first place

since when is a 20 year old a child. hey, you want to corner the market on old broads, be my fucking guest.