Hypothetical question for the married guys.
 

Your wife is dying. An old boyfriend (that you accept as being her dear friend, but not really happy about it) sends her a card, with a picture from an event before you knew her.

Do you get upset, or be a nice guy and show her the card and picture?

couple of questions about this question... first, are you opening her mail (hypothetically of course)? 2nd, what kind of an "event" was it? Im scared to think.

but to answer, Im not married, but pretty much am anyway. If that was the case, i would show her the card and picture. i really wouldnt care because if shes dying and that will make her feel better, it would be worth it.

i'm married. show her of course.

You give her the card... No reason to worry when she is yours now!

i can't really see what the issue is?

I am aware that before I met my wife, she did have sex, and she did have previous boyfriends.....what would the big deal be?

Give her the card.

Not that I would be, but, why can't you be upset & show her the card?

Im secure with who I am and who is going home with me.

I show her

I'd shoot the bitch to end it sooner....if she is still getting a card like that , then that relationship never ended and so she was cheating on me all along and just came out in the open....it all depends....only the wife knows....and the old boyfriend...

Of course I would show it to her, and why wouldn't I be happy about her friends? I'm not remotely insecure enough for BS like that EVER to be a problem.

Fuck, I'd contact him and let him know that my wife was sick and all the support her dear friends can give would be appreciated, so come on down and visit and ASAP and fuck, I'll even buy your plane ticket if you can't afford it.

Isn't that what love is all about?

If you don't think that is what it should be, well, I feel for you, I really do.

But MOST people ARE insecure.. hence the divorce rate and bitter ended relationship quotient I expect.

:2 cents:

i went round to my ex's place after we split up to pick up my daughter once - some guy was leg up watching my tv in the house i built being super cool with my kid - believe me - just give her the card - it's ok

There was no social life before me, and don't try to convince me otherwise.

If she is dying sure, I would let it pass, it might put a smile on her face.
If not it would go in the trash and the guy would end up with a little visit from me.

wow, who said shit about anyone cheating?

to even ask that question PROVES that you are an idiot.

you just did :Graucho

I am pretty sure that is where he is at. I talked to him on the phone the other day and could tell that this is really taking a toll on him. I know that this picture, while completely innocent, will put a smile on her face. So I was just going to send a card that said "Thinking of you" and include a picture from one of the funnest weeks in her entire life.

I was just trying to figure out how many would have the attitude of Raffi. Looks like he is in the minority, so I will go ahead an send it.

Thanks.

I'd give her the card, the best way to make her suffer is to help her remember the good times and then remind the bitch that she's about to die.

so it's YOU sending the card? :1orglaugh

you're a bigger creep than i thought! :1orglaugh

let me guess. you're posing in the pic with her? :1orglaugh :1orglaugh :1orglaugh

just a tip. send a card but leave the pic out of it. sometimes it's better to leave your ego behind. :2 cents:

It is very considerate of you to consider her husband?s feelings before sending the picture. If she is dying and this is your way of saying goodbye I don?t see how anyone would have a problem with it.

nope, I already decided to not send that pic

I'm guessing you are either extremely insecure or you aren't married or in any kind of committed relationship.

I really did not think you were so insecure.

show it to her, as long as he is not 'active' in her life, unless you are too insecure...

Well, he is married, so I am opting for insecure.

I think it should be ok Baddog. It's a gift to the husband to see her smile when she's see's the picture if you think about it. What a sad situation :(

If you know her husband, why dont you call him and ask him what he thinks?

Good idea, except that when I talked to him the other day he admitted that he isn't really answering the phone these days, he just did it that time because he saw it was me that was calling and figured I should be clued into the current situation.

I don't want to seem incessant, and I don't want to delay and be too late. I will try once before mailing though, can't hurt.

:1orglaugh
I actually feel guilty for laughing, but that was funny.

I'm far from insecure, I'm sadistic. :upsidedow

Draw a mustache on him.. thennn show it