Women of GFY - a question for you
 

Would you be annoyed if your partner had a female friend he regularly went on platonic dates with? (as in, dinner + romantic comedy)

Nah, it doesn't bother me...especially since I go out on platonic "dates" with my male friends all the time. :thumbsup

We trust each other too much to let it be an issue.

definitely...that's wrong! though they are just friends, why not invite you also for that dinner..or else, it would be just the two of you. he had time for his friend while to you???? omg! take some action now before they both screwed you up!

There is nothing wrong with having a female friend but going on dinners or to bars without you makes no sense. If it was a bunch of people from work and she was there then fine but going with her alone is just not respectful in my opinion if it is done on a regular basis.
I go out with a male friend twice a week for a few drinks now that my boyfriend is not here but once he is back I am sure I will invite him along if he wants to come out.

I wouldn´t mind letting them do it....but them I´d have to kill them ;)

It looks like there might be some misunderstanding of the question. It looks to me like Libertine is saying that, say, his girlfriend has a friend that he hangs out with and goes to dinner/movie with. Honestly, if it was my best friend or a good friend of mine that I trusted, I probably wouldn't mind that she hangs out with my boyfriend. All of this taking into consideration that you and your SO have a solid, trusting relationship. I would almost consider it that my friend was 'keeping an eye on him' for me...

Obviously, if the trust isn't there, and there had been signs of interest in either one, then they both need to be, well, dealt with ;o)

Generally no.

I trust my guy completely and don't feel threatened by any other woman. However, I still get annoyed when he spends too much time with his pals and not enough time with our family, but I guess that's a Mommy thing, lol.

I was hoping for more from this thread like:

Women of GFY:

A) What's your cup size?
B) Do you tan in the nude?
C) Do you have big girl hair?

yes........

Since you're saying this is a regular thing...then yes, I would be pissed. I don't really think it is a trust issue, but rather a respect issue. I wouldn't do that to my boyfriend because I respect his feeling towards me, and I would expect the same thing from him.

I do the same so it wouldnt bother me as long as im friends with that person or know who they are also.

uhmm... it depends! if they were friends before we settle then it's fine otherwise I'll ask my boyfriend what's the score between them!!!

Mu husband and I are both "porn stars" and we would never do anything like that.

Haha, yes. You'll find very few women who wouldn't be "annoyed" (to say the very least) by something like that.

I'm generally not a jealous person. Especially as I get older, I find that I just don't give a shit about stuff like that. If someone is good to me and respectful and I feel secure in the relationship, then I usually don't care what they do. Go to a strip club, get a blowjob from a hooker, have a massage with a happy ending... whatever floats your boat. Guys don't associate those sorts of things with love or caring, so it usually means nothing. I don't like being lied to, though.

Going out with a girl friend would likely be okay, too. It would mainly depend on how I observed them interact with each other. You can usually tell if there's an inappropriate vibe happening. As long as there's not, then I'd be cool with it.

Unless she's a lot prettier and hotter than me. Then the bitch has to go. :Graucho

I would definitely say yes I'd be annoyed. If this is done on a regular basis and them alone, then yes of course. Why would they do that and what's the purpose. I would have to ask why doing it on a regular basis, I would have to understand if they weren't seeing each other that much but on a regular basis? No way... :)

It really depends on the relationship, but if I wasn't invited along with them, then yes, that would get annoying. If we could all hang out together or with other friends, then that's not a problem. But if he's out on a date with another woman regularly enough, then that would be an issue.

way more than annoyed!

Not an issue cause it would only happen once. Dinner and a romantic movie with another chick while my ass sits at home? Buh bye. Thanks for playing.

I guess I would be. Even though my very best friend is an engaged guy, who I meet regularly.
But I wouldn't consider our meetings "platonic dates". Mainly we drink beer, eat pizza, talk about our work and our mates and play some backgammon...

I would do the same and go out with a male friend

dude - you're dancing with death. Hell hath no fury like a womans scorn.

Take it from me...

I've had girlfriends put draino in my shampoo, pissed in my milk, fucked my friends and their bosses. ugh...

I'm pretty sure most women wouldn't like that.....

yes theres a fine line and a little thing called respect!

Just do the same as he does, and see who gives in first

i'd have a problem with it since he doesn't even take ME out anymore. ;)

If i was sitting home alone while they were doing it than yes. If he was paying for them both than yes.

Otherwise, no. Time with friends is fine.

It's me and a female friend going out, not her and a male friend. Known the friend for over a decade, so nothing would ever happen - but girlfriends still tend to take offense, for some reason.

I think it would be disrespectful.

Also, I believe men cannot have a purely platonic relationship with a woman without sexual tension or sexual overtones. If they can, it means that the woman is unattractive.

Men simply cannot control themselves, they will always want to plug it. It's in their nature and encoded in their DNA. The man will go home and jack off thinking about the woman he just had dinner with, or if he's in denial it will surface in other ways.

There is a saying that someone once told me : "A guy's female friends are just women he hasn't had the chance to have sex with yet" (but is still working on) and I believe this to be true.

I also read a book once called "What Men Don't Want Women To Know"
http://www.amazon.com/What-Dont-Want...6002237&sr=8-1
which explained that men would totally do without women on this planet if it were not for one reason; sex.
I highly recommend this book btw, it speaks the truth.

I do not believe that a man is capable of a purely platonic relationship with a female.

And therefore, it is disrespectful to take a female friend out without the inclusion of your girlfriend.

Why do you not bring her along?? Why do you leave her home alone while you go out with this female??? You are supposed to put your partner first.

And how would YOU feel if she went on a "friendly date" with a lifelong male friend without including YOU?

Sorry, but the whole "men cannot have female friends" is just nonsense.

I have feelings for my girlfriend. Therefore, I only have sex with her.

Female friends are just like male friends, only you can talk about other stuff with them, like relationships (let's face it - most men suck at talking about those).

That is also an important reason for not taking a girlfriend along... how am I supposed to talk about her when she's sitting right there?

But thankfully, I appear to be blessed with a girlfriend who isn't jealous... ended up spending the night at my female friend's place, and my girlfriend didn't object at all :thumbsup

Other men have told me and confirmed with me that they cannot have purely platonic friendships with women. This came from the mouths of men themselves. It is true.

If your girlfriend is truly fine with you "spending the night" at your "friend's" place then that's great for her for being so understanding, but that just doesn't sound kosher. I guarantee you, most people in general would NOT feel comfortable with their significant spending the ENTIRE night with a friend of the opposite sex. It just defies good sense and is somewhat crossing the boundaries in my opinions. But hey, if she's fine with that that's good for both of you.

I HOPE YOU WILL BE AS UNDERSTANDING WHEN SHE DOES THE SAME THING TO YOU.

Not at all. Especially if she is really hot and it eventually becomes NOT platonic and he brings her home for a 3some. :thumbsup

Yes. And all men are exactly the same. :error

Why doesn't it sound kosher?

The friend in question is someone I've known for nearly a decade and a half. We've gone on vacation together, slept in the same bed several times, know almost everything about each other... hell, if something could happen, it would have happened a long, long time ago. She's like a sister to me.

Someone listen to this guy :winkwink:

I have never heard of a man having such a friendship before, it just sounds odd, to have a girlfriend yet sleep at another woman's house.

Ask any guy what they think about you "sleeping in the same bed with your female friend" without anything happening and that you truly are as close as "brothers and sisters." I am willing to bet most males and females will find this quite bizarre.

I don't know why and can't explain it. It is just weird and socially unconventional.

If you don't believe me, just start a new thread and ask guys if they can sleep in the same bed with one of their female friends with nothing happening, nothing possibly happening, without having any ulterior motives, without sexual tension and without the guy jerking off later or having some type of sexual thought about the woman.

It just doesn't happen.

So you let your girlfriend do the same or do you have double standards? You never answered this.

With very good, long-term friends? Then it isn't a problem at all.

have you never slept with her in all that time? And if not, why not?

See Libertine, I told you other people would agree with me!

I found you on youtube btw... nice singing.

hehe well thanks - weird, Franck saw me on there too - I was just messing around - I'll post more vids soon that are more polished :thumbsup

I love watching clips of people singing on there. I have heard of 2 people (Esmee Denters and Mia Rose) who got signed with major labels already because they posted themselves singing.

If I ever post myself singing on there I will use a completely new nick though so no one can ever find me. :winkwink:

I found out about you from Franck's thread, Frank said he saw you on there so I just went over there and searched for Badmunchkin...

I have a lot of guy friends, but we don't go out to dinner and a movie (and certainly not a "romantic comedy"). Anyway you look at it...that's a date. We hang out at bars, go to a club, maybe get some food at a restaurant while sitting at the bar (not at a table).

IMO...if you didn't have any doubt that what you're doing is 100% kosher, then you wouldn't have even started this thread.

here's a more "finished" song
http://www.clearchannelmusic.com/cc-...html?art=26318

it's purdy :winkwink:

That sounds really good seriously. It sounds like something I can imagine hear playing on the radio and very commercial (which is good) but not too commercial, still unique.

btw I'm not saying that I agree - I'm just trying to find out more info about the situation - men and women can just be friends - it totally depends on the situation - when I'm in a monogamous relationship I'm in a monogamous relationship - pissing off your girlfriend & all the headaches that come with it are hardly worth one night of fun :2 cents:

thanks :thumbsup that's probably our "poppiest" song but it's still kind of dark (which all my favorite music is anyways) and not tooooo poppy hopefully :)

Trust is the most important thing in a relationship, if you don't trust the person you love... everything will be ruined. It's okay to be jealous sometimes but not over trivial matters. If you're feeling your bf is cheating on you, and you proved it. confront him and make him admit it, but if not, just let it go.. there's always karma in the corner.:)

Never. We never even kissed, flirted or anything of that kind.

Why not... hmm. I suppose it's because I don't consider her a woman. Just a friend. A very close friend, almost more like a little sister really. First time I saw her, she was 11 and I was 12. In my mind, she's still that little girl, in a way.

There IS platonic love
 

Mostly I don't believe in true friendship betwen a man and a woman, but I myself have a male friend(who has a girlfriend), who I see regularly. We often spend hours and hours together sitting on a bench somewhere and just talking, talking about everything. His girlfriend doen't need to worry, we aren't endangering their relationship in any way.

I can hear the sound of my words and know, you don't believe them, yet on rare occations a platonic relationship betwen a woman and a man does happen, after all there is a word for it, so other people must have seen and experienced it.

The thing is...we have no fear when we talk to each other, with fear I mean all those subconscious hesitations one feals when speaking to another person, who isn't me. We are honest. Completly. (Even our deepest secrets.) What are the odds that you meet someone like that in your life, that is why platonic love seems unreachable. But is not!

However, there will never be anything physical betwen us. Not now and not in thousand years. For one, we would never betray our partners. Yet what is more important, with it we would also betray our frienship - I can't entirely explain it. It just feels so absolutely impossible, I can't imagine us together, not even in my wildest dreams. Not gonna happen. Never. Impossible.