what would you do?
 

So alright, hypothetically if you had someone you really liked, living in say.. Spain.
And you were from, Denmark. You had both agreed on meeting in Amsterdam for the weekend, and Its a very long time since you last saw him/her.
But, because of unforeseen circumstances he/she couldn't come after all.
So you offer to go to Spain instead of meeting up in Amsterdam(the other option being going to Amsterdam alone). The other person responds by saying "No, its too soon too meet up where i live, I'm not ready etc."

Would you do as they tell you and have a shitty weekend in Amsterdam alone or would you go to Spain and see what happens?

I'm Personally leaning towards going anyway.. but input would be nice.

Is he a hot guy?

It sounds like he/she has another partner in Spain and simply wanted a dirty weekend in Holland...Hey I may be wrong :winkwink:

Find a new one and move on.

I think it's called "cold feet" or something :)

Plus you will never get a shitty weekend in Amsterdam, eventhough you might be going alone.

He\She is hot beyond measure.

Lets hope you are.

That is exactly what came to mind for me as well :2 cents:

Go to Amsterdam, have the time of your life and then send him/her pictures.

Well Lets assume that isn't the case, Yes were paranoid webmasters but not everyone is trying to screw you, however i can see how it would be safe to assume they are.

But for the sake of the argument, lets assume the person in question isn't doing that.
Would you go to Spain or Amsterdam, knowing what you know.

Because may he/she thinks it's impossible to make things work sense your so far apart! But honestly I would go to (spain) tell them where you'll be and hope that they show! If not then you know! Plus you can have fun there and meet someone else maybe! Remember everything happens for a reason, maybe this trip will take you to a new place in life!

Who's to say your weekend in Amsterdam would be all that bad if you went on your adventure alone?...Sounds like it would be the wiser of the two choices...It's probably not a good idea to drop in on someone who sounds so apprehensive...:Oh crap Hope all goes well for you, whatever it is you decide to do!:)

Right that's more or less what i was thinking, and I'm thinking it might resolve things you know, because being who i am, I'm naturally suspicious of anything that seems too good to be true, and it honestly does. So I'm thinking like "grab the bull by the horns" and whatnot.
Worst case scenario, ill be drunk in Spain for a full week(and somewhat depressed but its not like it wont pass.)

So the benefits outweigh the possible negative effects. I mean sure if its like some of you have said, that he\she has a significant other in their lives. Then I'd be fine with that.. apparently my assessment of this particular person was completely off and I'd be better off in the first place. However due to things i haven't mentioned here to keep the posts fairly short, i doubt that is the case.

I would tell them I'd be going to Amsterdam, then show up at their place in Spain and go "SURPRIIIIIISE!".

I really wonder why you cant say if its a he or she?

I'm not actually showing up at their place, its more like showing up in the respective major city, and saying "hey I'm here, grab it while its hot."

I'm trying to keep it open for everyone here. As is the way with hypothetical situations.

good luck to you.......lil fyi it worked for me.......I went there and he did meet me! we are still together. He wasn't ready but glad we did. He lives with me in Mi. orig. from Miami!:winkwink:

Prolly he/she will not let you alone , let's hope she/he has balls to come and pick you up . I am not the best adviser ... so why the heck iam writing now :Oh crap
Anyway you better take care of your self , and your feelings .. your a big boy , so you decide ;)

"big wookiee" please..

sad but true... or give her more time. Dont push it with girls

Well i think i approached this from the wrong mental point of view, so my mind is basically made up at this point.

A) i cant stay home for reasons i wont disclose here.
B) i cant go to Amsterdam because ill be thinking about what ill be missing out on all the time.

which leaves going there and seeing what happens. That is if i can actually get a ticket to anywhere near there, considering I'm going tomorrow.

You should go to Spain!

Go, set yourself on fire and go back...

jeeze, its been tearing me apart all day. My flight leaves tomorrow at 1200 so i guess ill figure out then. Wish me luck.

Go to Amsterdam...it could come off as real creepy if you show up in Spain.

yeah after five years i finally reveal my creepy axe murdering side.

That would make for a great surprise though.

Okay, good luck on your trip wookie!

Wish you all the best! :angel

I have a feeling that whichever trip you take, you might not be happy with the outcome..

Go to Amsterdam=live with regret and the what ifs
Go to Spain= A. Might freak he/she out and never talks to you again B.You find out something you don't want to find out.

Or..you could go to Spain and they are happy you were persistent b/c they just had cold feet. Now that they see you, all is good and you live happily ever after.

Confused even more, huh:-)

Go to Amsterdam and get laid!

Personally, i'd just leave it. Sounds like too much of an effort, and you could end up looking like an ass...

more excuses = simple means "NO"

datawookiee are you familiar w/ datatank?

Is this why you refused to meet up with me at the "Carnal Islands"? I swear that's just their name. Jeez!

5 years??????? my gosh I was only 5 months lol goooooooooo lover goooooooooooooo btw Icq me and let me whats going on:thumbsup

If you smoke enough reefer in Amsterdam you'll forget about it

so okay, final update. 5 years yes.. on\off friends etc.. We haven't actually been meeting up for that long.

right, now for the plan, I'm going to Amsterdam since its not 100% that she isn't coming there (due to perfectly logical reasons.) however, if she doesn't show up there i might get my ass on another plane.
But yeah i know it might make me look like a weird stalker but fuck it, I'm not going there to make things happen I'm going to give them the chance to happen. And if they don't then tough shit for me. Ill just have to live with it.

And no, who\what ever Datatank is, i don't know them\it.

Anyway my Train is leaving in an hour or so. So you guys have a great weekend.
ciao

Umm if you are referring to going to Spain that is fucking creepy. I would imagine that would ruin any chance you would have had. Too stalkerish for most people. :2 cents:

It depends if said person is a he or a she. If its a "she" I'd say DO NOT GO! If its a dude 50-50 he'd be cool about it. I still wouldn't do this.

Go to Spain!!!

If you really want to go to Spain, then go ahead and tell her you are in Spain and tell her maybe she might show up. But if she doesnt want to see I guess she really doesnt care, so dont be bother, just explore the place, meet someone and have a good time.

posting from a airport in amsterdam now.. checked ticket prices for spain just in case. but im hoping ill get that call soon. fucking lonliest feeling ever.. waiting for a phone call in an airport. jeeze.. stuff better start happening soon or im gonna make it happen.

im many things but im not patient.

If I was already in Amsterdam, I would stay there and try have a a ball.:upsidedow:upsidedow

agreed...

Well im in spain now so lets see what happens.

Get 5 mexican migits and Juicy to amsterdam and forget about your imaginary friend :)